Dear Speed Seduction Master-In-Training,
Ever found yourself in a situation where you SWEAR you did everything right with a woman, yet for some reason it seems like the magic “wasn’t there?”
If you haven’t found yourself there at least once, then you’re like the salesman who has never been rejected… meaning you’ve never REALLY put yourself out there… also meaning what you THINK is the biggest score of your life to-date is nothing more than a sample taste of what CAN and WILL be once you do…
Check out this note from a student of mine:
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I just got back from an evening out with a very attractive woman and I’m frustrated. I thought I did everything right – capturing her imagination, using patterns, fractionating, redirecting her vibe, etc. At several points when she seemed “in trance” I leaned in to her and she responded by smiling and leaning in to me.
At the end of the evening I walked her back to her car, gave her a hug and a kiss on the cheek. We agreed to meet again. All well and good? If things are going so well, why do I feel like I managed to capture her imagination but didn’t lead it very well?
It seems to be a bit of a pattern with me. I meet women, get into great conversations with them, steer them towards me, but I don’t seem to be able lead them to places which let them feel interested or comfortable enough to want to go any further.
Like I’m so close, yet can’t cross the finish line?
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OK: Stop right here. This is SOOO obvious.
You have a little “block” on getting physical. You said you leaned in several times and she smiled and leaned back. So what’s the problem? You didn’t have to “lead” her anywhere. She already HAD her ticket to the Cape Carnal-Veral Shuttle and was waiting for you to take her to lift-off!
Here’s the problem: something in your head is waiting for verbal permission to kiss her!
What is this hug on the cheek bullshit? Dude, she was probably ready to at least blow you on the spot!
I suggest you change your beliefs about getting physical… and change it NOW!
Peace and piece,
RJ
P.S. If you’ve ever encountered problems “closing the deal” on your Sarge, I’ve got the accelerator that gets you across the Finish line so you can enjoy the women you really want.
Been there myself – and I was surprised. Could have but didn’t. Then I realized that just picking the fruit is much less tasty than really “taking a woman” – which is on a much deeper level. A “boy” can have as many “girls” as he wants. A man however, understands that exploring the natural connection between a man and a woman is the ultimate journey. Awaken the “natural woman” inside her (something only a real man can do) and you tap into primal DNA – what she’s hard-wired for. She’ll willingly surrender her body, mind and heart to you – without all the “girl bullshit”. The quality and sheer intensity of this deeper connection experience pays the most delicious, meaningful and long-lasting dividends. It’s life changing for both of you.
Until you’ve evolved into this deeper level – you’re still a boy just trying to get laid.
-BobbyB
While seated at the feet of the master teacher, this student often sees his responsibilities:
to prove that he is worthy of the time and energy bestowed upon him;
to show that the knowledge given him is not wasted;
to honor his fellow students by showing an earnest and dedicated character.
I have been reading the letters sent in by fellow students.
Some show their understanding. Some seek answers.
The master replies and his responses guide us to a place where our consciousness and the truth merge.
As a student my attempt to see each letter as the master might, has been rewarding.
Master, allow me, as a friend, and with great humility, to speak to this letter and to its author.
Dude, stop thinking. “Smack dab in the middle” is where you are. You are swimming in vagina.
No water. I’m gonna call this one Ross. Hey dude, it’s you pace. Do the breathing Meditation.
Look man, what happens is, you grab the girl, kiss her on the cheek, and say goodbye before she
has the chance to say “fuck me please”. Take a cold shower. Curse God. Rehearse this walk up.
Walk up, every so slowly, more slowly still. You will reach her. Ground yourself.
Look her straight in the eye and start taking her cloths off. Move even more slowly than you now imagine. Slow ‘til your fingers move about one or two inches per second. Be silent and expressionless.
Welcome to LJBF Land, so obvious. So next time risk everything. Lean and kiss her. If she accept you then you have a girlfriend if not go to next girl that is waiting for you! Good luck or good loose!
As soon as i read that dudes letter it was so obvious, lead physically as well as mentally women love saying know it actually is a very strong vehicle to them saying yes, what I mean is even if a woman says no at that moment i can guarantee she will think about that for a long time and see you as a strong assertive person ( which women love ) it very rarely fails me regards Paul
this guy should have kissed her when she leaned in. Its an obvious unconscious response for I want more.
You kiss your mother on the cheek. You kiss your grandmother on the cheek. You kiss your sister on the cheek. You kiss your friends on the cheek. You kiss your wife on the cheek just before she becomes your ex-wife. Always kiss your lover on the lips, before, during, and after or not at all.
If you are not confortable the first time saying goodbye, which is lame by the way in what you described. Look her in the eye, passionately (slowly) kiss the top of her hand, then look her back in the eyes and say ‘next time’. Then turn and walk away. That’ll blow her mind. Caution: use once (per person) only on a first time escalation and always escalate to a full blown kiss immediately on greeting her the next time. Follow with a brief cool down unless she immediately blows you.
why did you wait till the end of the evening, that is dating? touching and physical intimacy needs to be initiated early on. I am not opposed to kissing a girl on the cheek, but I do that as a spring board, envision: Give a girl a hug, kiss her on the cheek, slide your hand down to the small of the back as you pull back enough to look her in the eyes, then lean in to kiss her. I have lost track of the number of times I have done this, and only twice had a girl turn her head and give me her cheek.
Double T,
Good move. Let’s all try this!
I feel like luke when he first starts becoming a jedi hahaha
THE OLD ME IS GONE FOREVER! ALL MY OLD WAYS OF THINKING GONE!
I just got back from the coffee shop ( buying everyone in the office coffee like a champ )
and before i went in i stopped, and for about 2 minutes i thought about what i was gonna do when i got in, i said to myself, ill start with the generic answer to her generic question ” hi how are you? good? etc, then ill hit her with an “its just that” so i did,
her reaction was instant! its like she snapped out of a coma!
i had her attention, so i hit her with a story to make sure she would percieve everything i said as her own thought. It was something along the lines of “the other day, i was having coffee with my good friend, and this coffee was so POWERFUL it gave you an ENERGY you’ve never felt before! i found myself hanging on everyword he said!”
she was blown away! literally, her eyes bulged, her pupils went massive, the smile spread across her face, i had done exactly what i wanted to do when i went in there! leave her better than when i found her! by changing her emotional state!!!
She exitedly asked where the coffe was from? i actually didnt know what to say, so i said, “you’ll never know” to try an keep the mystery alive! was that the right move?
she laughed, then about a minute later while i was waiting for the coffee she asked me about it again.
now im wondering what everyone thinks! what i could of done after that maybe? remembering my goal was never to number close, just to change her emotional state and leave her better than i found her
thanks ross and pua community,
hearts.