Dear Seeker of Success,
Many smart guys lose momentum on their girl-getting game because they allow their f@@kups on Sarges to block their path to moist pink abundance.
After a particular episode is over, they’ll stop and think,
“Why didn’t I say this?”
“Why did I do that?”
“How could I screw up the goddamn Blowjob Pattern AGAIN?”
The More You Ask Yourself These Questions,
The More You Stay In Self-Enforced Celibacy
(And that is NOT how “the more, the more” is supposed to work!)
Listen: don’t make it a “Why didn’t I?” frame of reference. That’s blaming yourself.
What you want to be able to do is create a review state where you go home, relax, and surround yourself with beliefs about learning.
Instead say, first of all, “Wow! What did I do right?”
Once Again, What We’re “Taught” In “School”
Leads To Insta-Cockblocking
See, we’re educated brainwashed from childhood, when we go to school. When the teacher marks your paper, do they mark what you got right? No. They mark, with red checkmarks and reproach in red ink, what you got wrong.
You’re at a huge advantage over most people if you can get out of that “red ink” mindset.
First and foremost, notice everything you’ve done correctly at every stage, in every way, and in every phase. (I go over this very clearly in my “Nail Your Inner Game” program.)
What have you done right in terms of your attitude, what you noticed, what you said, your behavior, utilizing her responses, and controlling your state? Notice all of that, and write it down first.
Then, and only then, ask “What else could I have done?”
Get excited. Instead of saying, “Damn it! Why didn’t I do this?” say, “Cool! Look at what I just learned. I can’t wait to get out there and do it with this tool under my belt”
Take the frustration out of it, and make it all about learning.
Make it about, “I’m either going to get what I want or gain the power to learn what I need in order to get what I want or better.”
Discipline yourself to have that perspective, and the results will flow from there.
This New Way Of Thinking Will Change So Much For You
(In All Walks Of Life!)
First of all, you’ll learn more quickly. You’ll be doing more and not carrying frustration into your interactions with women. This is a beautiful difference in your attitude.
It really will make a huge difference in how women receive you.
When you think, “Damn it! Why didn’t I think of that?” it presupposes that meeting women and getting good initial responses are rare things that you can’t repeat easily. Watch that. You’re reinforcing a bad belief.
If you think, “Fuck, yes! That’s what I could have done! I’ll do this next time,” that attitude presupposes that meeting women successfully is easy to do.
That sure beats a poke in the eye.
Peace,
RJ
P.S. As I said, for most people, it’s not common to process this way. You need to be able to train your mind to have those responses.
Do you have the “Nail Your Inner Game” program?
