Dear Speed Seduction® Student,
Again and again, until I’ve gone blue in the face, I’ve explained that if you simply recite pick-up lines word-for-word, there IS a chance she’ll laugh in your face or say something mean.
This chance increases when you fail to calibrate your verbal and non-verbal communication and the way you utilize language patterns, touch, sexualization, and several other elements, to THAT woman in THAT situation.
Failing to do these things makes it like you’re reading a silly poem from a dumb book of poems on subjects she couldn’t care less about. That’s not very Sargy, now, is it?
Now let’s take this one step further.
When students tell me they do language patterns, in those exact words, I say “you’re doing it wrong.”
Here’s what I mean:
Language Patterns Are Not Something You Do.
They Are Something You Share.
To repeat: you don’t “do” a language pattern to a woman. You share with her.
Let me explain a couple of things about patterns to help you get it…
First of all, when I say “pattern,” you understand a pattern isn’t necessarily a long recited speech. It can be. An example of a pattern can be the Incredible Connection pattern.
When you do a long recited pattern, you need to understand that you need to give women time to participate. If all of a sudden a woman interrupts you and says, “Like when I feel a sense of destiny, karma and energy,” let her participate – especially if it’s a longer language pattern.
Second, just like language patterns are not something you do to a woman or run on a woman, Speed Seduction® is not something you do to women or run on them. It’s a sharing where you’re in the lead.
Now let me explain what I mean by that.
If, for example, you’re doing the Incredible Connection pattern, unless you can imagine FOR YOURSELF, IN THE MOMENT what it feels like to feel an incredible connection and you’ve experienced one in your life, how can you expect to lead her to feel that simply by reciting the words?
Perhaps you don’t experience the feelings as intensely as she does, however you at least have to be able to explore what it would feel like just a little bit to lead her.
Again: you need to let her participate. As you’re talking, if she says, “You mean it’s like when I feel a sense of destiny?” you want to develop that, not ignore it. By saying that, she’s drawing you the map to her bed. READ it.
Okay, Let Me Say It Another Way
The more you “do” language patterns to a woman, the less you’ll be “doing her” in bed. And vice-versa.
Got it?
Peace and piece,
RJ
P.S. My suggestion is, get your ass out to my seminar and watch how it’s done in front of real live women who I’ll have on stage.
If you want to transform, get your ass out to the seminar.
To me it is more important to get the concept of Speed Seduction and to be able to apply it many different avenues beyond any set pattern. Just like martial arts where in the beginning a person might be focus on learning the techniques, but as time moves on the martial artist soon takes on the form of a conceptual technician, or in other words finally the art becomes a part of the practitioner.
Fortunately I’ve never been able to memorize a full pattern, so I’ve never had a problem with this!
Nice breakdown Ross. Still somewhat vague but I can sift through the article and put it together myself. Like that you said it isn’t something you do to the girl but share with her. Cool perspective.
Hello Mr Jeffries, I hope all is well.
“if you simply recite pick-up lines word-for-word, there IS a chance she’ll laugh in your face or say something mean.”
I have patterns that I’ve made up that follow specific questions to the woman. These require her to give me feedback before I start the patterns…
1st question: “are you from around here, do you live nearby?” – I then do a pattern I have created and memorized.
2nd question: “are you like most girls, and probably shopping’s enough to fill you up with excitement?” I then go on to the subject of self discipline. Or I may ask what she does for fun/what her guilty pleasure is – then go into the theme of self discipline.
3rd question: “Do you like meeting new people? One thing I find interesting about people is:” – have you ever noticed, a person can completely close off their logical mind, when they really want to feel indulgence, pleasure, satisfaction and desire? It’s like you feel the need to immediately act upon it right now, when it’s right in front of you. If you don’t, it can just keep growing harder and harder to resist. (said this one today – went completely over her head)
Making a pattern up on the spot, is sprinting to my current crawling…
In regards to the Dave Riker course, I have Rapid and Total, doesn’t that cover all I need to know about patterns?
This article is making me apprehensive about doing patterns, as I feel I could be falling into the category you described. I could also be misinterpreting what you have been talking about.
If you could please let me know if I’m on the right track – or give a really clear example about just “doing a pattern”?
I have the curse of being a perfectionist when it comes to approaching.
Re-reading the article. I think you mean – don’t say them robotically. Feel the words I am using when expressing states of emotion. Slow it down so she can join in.