Dear Seeker of Success,
There is only one sure thing in this world: the fact that there is no such thing as a “sure thing.”
Part of mastering your girl-getting game is gaining comfort with, and mastery of, the unknown.
Here’s an example of what might set things off…
You just spent an awesome evening with a hot babe. Everything was perfect and you got her all excited…and the night is coming to a close and you go to kiss her.
But before you get a word or a move in, her first response is to tell you “I’m only going to hug you good bye…okay?”
Worse yet, by the time you get home you see she already e-mailed you saying she enjoyed “learning about you” but with no specifics about what specifically she enjoyed, or whether she wants to enjoy more! (Say WHAT?!?!?!)
Man, does that fry your circuits or what???
You thought FOR SURE that you were taking her for a ride on the baloney-pony express tonight! Immediately the thought creeps in… “Uh oh….she doesn’t have interest in going out with me again.”
So what are you going to do?
Pick a daisy and start plucking the pedals while saying “She wants to bang me; she wants to bang me not?”
Tell you what…
Leave The Daisies In The Yard, Because Your Ticket To
The Cape Carnal-Virile Shuttle Is Still Valid
When all this happens, you are filtering your experience through a lot of anxiety. Remember: a woman’s first response should NEVER be interpreted as her final response.
You’re jumping the gun here, cowboy.
How do you know she’s not just playing hard to get?
Maybe she doesn’t know what she’s playing, or if she’s playing at all.
And if she doesn’t know, how the he11 can YOU know, based off a hug and an e-mail?
Part of the issue is that your field of energy collapses at the first sign that you MIGHT be “losing” the chick.
Then you go into a downward spiral of self-doubt.
This leaves you feeling flat and dry as a fluffy pancake.
Then, you pour on the maple syrup: you are still filtering your girl-getting skills through the filter of “I hope she likes me! I HOPE THIS WORKS! PLEASE LIKE ME!”
Sticky – As In, It Gets You Stuck – For Sure.
All of this is static that will loop you back into the problem. Does it sound familiar?
Instead, imagine this: how would it be different for you if you walked through the world enjoying being powerful, outrageous and strong and not caring so much if it worked or it didn’t, but caring more about the energy and vibe you were going to express the skills from?
Yep, THAT would sure beat a poke in the eye.
Peace,
RJ
P.S. The keys to your liberation from the worry, doubt, and anxiety that, up until now, you have experienced when you are uncertain about whether, indeed, she “wants to bang you” or “bang you not” – and much more – are inside my Rapid and Total Success With Women Course.
As salesman, I can tell you that unless the customer has told you to get lost straight out, you are still in the game. Even the superstars misread and get it wrong sometimes
If I get an outright rejection from a prospect, I IGNORE it. If it gets brought up again, I treat it as a legitimate objection in the prospect’s mind and try to overcome it ad move forward. If I don’t succeed, well, there are many other prospective customers out there who should be enjoying my product or service.
Is this an accurate analogy Ross, or have I just been putting in too many hours at my job?
This is not far removed from what I share in the Invincible Influence course which is part of the Persuasion Mastery line.
So I’d say you’re dead-on.