Dear Seeker of Success, As we move through our series on why confident men shut down around really hot women, so far we’ve explored how “shutting down” is an incorrect phrase, and the power of metaphors. So far, so good! Now I’m going to show you what’s going in her mind, and yours, and how […]

Dear Seeker of Success, A student of mine shared that he doesn’t have approach anxiety except when he gets to women who are like an “8” or higher. Then he shuts down. He asked me, “What can I do to overcome the shutting down?” Here we have a guy who does well with women until […]

Dear Seeker of Success, A student of mine was watching a Bono interview – the singer from U2. He said the video was magnetic – Bono had such charisma, like He doesn’t need to do anything. People are drawn to him. I agree: Bono’s intense. When you hear him talk, you get a sense that […]

Dear Seeker of Success, For many students, overcoming approach anxiety can’t be done by simply saying “suck it up, Buttercup.” Even (perhaps especially) if that message is delivered by your well-meaning buddies surrounding you at the party: “There she is.  She’s f@@king HOT.  Dude.  DUDE.  GO FOR IT!” Approach anxiety can be scary. Scary things […]