Dear Seeker of Success, A student of mine shared that he doesn’t have approach anxiety except when he gets to women who are like an “8” or higher. Then he shuts down. He asked me, “What can I do to overcome the shutting down?” Here we have a guy who does well with women until […]

Dear Speed Seduction® Student, A few months ago, I was a guest speaker at someone else’s event. I started my talk by asking: “By a show hands, how many here find themselves dwelling over and over again on mistakes they make with women? Situations that just haven’t or don’t work out?” Every single person – […]

Dear Seeker of Success, For many students, overcoming approach anxiety can’t be done by simply saying “suck it up, Buttercup.” Even (perhaps especially) if that message is delivered by your well-meaning buddies surrounding you at the party: “There she is.  She’s f@@king HOT.  Dude.  DUDE.  GO FOR IT!” Approach anxiety can be scary. Scary things […]

Dear Seeker of Success, With any approach toward women, whether it’s a funny approach or question, comment and observation, we want to do a pre-opener. A pre-opener is something you say very briefly to a woman just so she can sample your voice and presence and know that you’re safe. For example, in a coffee […]