Dear Speed Seduction® Student,
Yesterday I told you about a radio interview I did, in which the on air talent asked me, “What are the 3 or 4 biggest mistakes guys make with women?”
I went over the first fatal mistake with women: over focusing on the behaviors and actions you want from her, instead of focusing on the emotional states you would like her to be in when she is around you. I explained that in the right emotional states-fascination, desire, lust-a woman will naturally want to give you all of the behaviors that you want from her.
So let’s get to…
The Second Fatal Mistake Guys Make With Women: Not Getting The Woman To Invest In And Keep Reaching For The Powerful, Positive Emotions She’s Feeling For You!
Pay attention now, because I am about to clear up one of the most confusing, frustrating, “tear out your hair” realities about women. If you have ever had a seemingly great first meeting or date with a woman, where it really felt like you were both “clicking”, both having “chemistry”, even making out like crazy AND YOU NEVER HEARD FROM HER AGAIN, then I am going to clear that up and show you how to never have that happen again.
So listen:
If you are always moving forward with a woman, constantly giving her the strong emotions she wants, you are not giving her the sense that these experiences with you are something of great value that she has to work for to get more.
Women need to feel, on some level, that they are reaching for more. That the emotional experiences you give them are something THEY want more of and must work for and pursue.
This is the true explanation behind the “half-truth” that says that women want what they can’t have.
Well, that is a bunch of bull. Most women can’t have an African elephant step on their heads, and they don’t want it either.
The truth is that if a woman wants something, she will want it much more if, on some level, she has to reach for more of it.
If you are constantly moving forward with a woman, constantly showing her your interest and constantly giving her strong, powerful emotions, you are actually STRONGLY interfering with the inner process she has to undergo to feel that these experiences are something she has to get more of!
To put it another way, even the hungriest person will sooner or later feel full if you keep shoving the pasta down their throats.
So knowing how to pull back a little bit and make a woman keep reaching for the attention and interest and strong emotions you are showing her is a key to turning her momentary strong interest into powerfully strong actions.
In case you are a real moron and need it spelled out for you, here is the formula:
Strong interest + having to reach for more = STRONG ACTIONS
Once you get a woman’s interest, you have to get her investment. And once you get her investment, you can get her commitment to the actions you want from her.
Interest——>Investment——>——-Commitment——>Action
Just to be clear, a woman’s commitment certainly doesn’t have to be verbalized or stated on her part. And the gap between her being emotionally committed and her actions could be so fast that they appear to be one and the same, and for all intents and purposes, they are.
A metaphor before I wrap this up to help you understand the difference between these three things: in a breakfast of bacon and eggs, you, the hungry person are interested. The chicken is invested. But the pig is COMMITTED!
Take me on as your teacher and coach, and the confusion around women will be replaced with uncanny and totally accurate insight into where they are in this process, how to guide them through it with a sense of power and fun, and enjoy how great THEY feel surrendering to you every step along the way.
And doesn’t that beat a poke in the eye?
