Dear Speed Seduction® Student,
In the last issue, I spoke about the fatal mistake of chasing, instead of choosing. I talked about how you could solve this problem by using the 3 S’s: Screening, Selectivity, and Standards.
Today, I’d like to talk to you about…
Fatal Mistake With Women #7-Not Having An Easy, Reliable, Effective, Consistent Method To Meet A Stream Of Hot Women, Anytime, Anywhere
Listen: one of the biggest issues I see with my students is that they are stuck in what I call “relationships by default”.
This means that they have(or have had) a girlfriend, but she really isn’t someone they are truly into.
They’ve tried to improve things or “make it work” but they just couldn’t. And if they knew they could find a woman kinder, more fun, sexier or hotter…
…They’d Leave The Loser Girl Behind In A Heartbeat!
But the problem is, they only meet women occasionally or by accident.
Put very simply here is Ross Jeffries’ Rule #68 For Success With Women:
If You Don’t Have Women To Choose,
You Can’t Have Choice With Women!
To use a metaphor, if you don’t have a way to constantly fill your nets, even the occasional sardine begins to look like a prize catch.
This is a very bad situation, to say the least.
Now just to offer you even more value in this issue, let me give you some quick tips and clues that you can use to start meeting women anytime, anywhere. I’ve taught greatly expanded versions of these to students for the past 15 years, and these are the ones they seem to really like and use:
1. Remember that 99% of the time, the worst that will happen is NOTHING will happen. That is to say that women, contrary to your fears or negative fantasies, really aren’t going around looking to shoot men down. For the most part, they aren’t looking to do harm or be mean. So when things don’t go the way you want, you won’t get yelled at or insulted or laughed down.
When things DO go wrong, 99% of the time, the woman simply won’t respond. She’ll ignore your comment. Or smile meekly. Or just walk away.
I’ve NEVER been slapped. I’ve seldom been yelled at(and often turn that around into a successful seduction). But I am sometimes ignored. So what?
2. Rather than guess or speculate what will happen, move forward and let the real life situation tell you what will take place. You see, for most guys it is not fear or anxiety that keeps them stuck. It’s the conflict between the desire to talk to the girl, and the desire to be certain before they take a step.
Rather than diminish your desire by going after uglier women or telling yourself that she’s probably “a bitch” or “taken” it works better to diminish your desire to be certain.
Let me give you an attitude to adopt that will help you get your feet moving:
“When I don’t know what to do, I take a bold step forward”.
3. Always use a “pre-opener” before you deliver your actual opening line.
In my experience, women will welcome the most outrageous, bizarre, even corny and dumb ass approaches and lines IF you first say something common-place, ordinary, even boring before you pull out the outrageous stuff.
Say the outrageous, corny, dumb-ass stuff first, and you’ll probably get nowhere.
Say it AFTER you first use a boring, mundane “pre-opener” and it gets eagerly accepted 90% of the time.
The explanation for this is far too complex to give here. But lets give you a few examples to go out and try:
You: (at a Starbucks) Can you pass me the sugar?
Her: Here you go
You: You aren’t Jamaican, are you?
Her: No
You: Cuz Ja-makin’ me crazy.
You: (anywhere) Nice shoes
Her: Thanks
You: You aren’t from Tennessee, are you?
Her: No
You: Cause you’re the only 10 I see!
You: Good morning
Her: Good morning
You: You aren’t Russian, are you?
Her: No
You: Good…cause you ought to take your time when you’re meeting someone you’re really going to like.
Now listen: if you think these lines and routines are incredibly stupid, trite, corny and idiotic, and that no women would possibly go for them, I couldn’t agree more, if they are the first thing out of your mouth.
But if you deliver them AFTER the normal, boring, “pre-opener”, then contrary to your believe and counter to your intution they usually totally work to get her laughing and welcoming your approach.
4. In any kind of popular, crowded, social scene, like a party, a club, a lounge, or a bar, make friends with the room before you pick up on women!
If you enter a social scene with the vibe of a predator and immediately go right on the prowl, the women watching will pick up on your hungry vibe and you will turn them off before you even approach them.
Just think of that hungry-to-make-a-deal car salesman who comes storming at you the instant you enter the lot and demands to know if you “are ready to buy a car today”!
If instead you learn to first be friendly with everyone in the setting-men and women-you will be perceived by the women there as open, fun, and non-threatening.
This will make your life a lot easier when you do make your approach, and will often even result in your being introduced to groups of women by the new “friends” that you are making.
Trust me when I say that will make your work a hell of a lot easier.
Ok, there’s plenty, plenty more I’d like to teach on this subject. But for now, I’ll see you in the next installment of this series.
