Dear Seeker of Success,
You’re a smart guy who’s “got it goin’ on” who knows how to overcome your fear, walk right over to the hottie you see at the next table, and Sarge on her ’till next thing you know…
….she’s screaming your name while you take her places she’s never been before.
But there’s one problem.
The other guys she’s been with have treated her like garbage. You refuse to resort to bullying, begging, buying, bs, booze, or biceps…but she’s so used to guys who DO, that you end up being the “therapist” she cries to about those other jerks.
You know, the jerks who are f@@king her silly while you fantasize about her during your date with Rosey and her five sisters.
Here’s a note I got from a student who’s in that boat:
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I have the hots for this chick who has ONLY ever been attracted to guys who treated her like crap. Occasionally she’ll call me or I her and we’ll hang a bit or talk on the phone. Each time, I extend her comfort zone just a bit more and her affirm, ratify and REACH for more good feelings.
It’s been my experience, if you treat women nice they tend to run away because it is all new to them. And I’m left standing there, knowing I had good intentions. But good intentions ain’t getting my Willy wet.
Can you expand the process here of how you had to be “hard” on her at first (which is what she expects from men) and slowly change her comfort zone to reach for good feelings – that will open up her heart and blow her mind.
Can this be done without me becoming her therapist and “friend” instead of her lover?
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This is territory fraught with pitfalls. First, foremost, UPPERMOST, MOST importantly:
DETACH YOURSELF from the outcome. You might like this woman, but you have to detach; turn down your desire to bang her, make a difference, change her worldview, etc.
Repeat this to yourself till it’s clear:
“I am not attached, but nor am I disinterested.”
And then orient yourself to your end goal by asking:
“Do I want a poke in the eye, or do I want to poke her?”
(I think you KNOW what *I* prefer!)
Instead of being the “friend” whose shoulder she cries on about how those jerks treat her wrong, you’ll be the guy who gets her soaking wet with desire…the “best she’s ever had.”
Peace,
RJ
P.S. It sucks that you are competing for this chick against a–holes and d–kwads. But, what these jerks aren’t counting on is you having Ross Jeffries on your team.
Now, you can have word for word seduction patterns that induce permanent behavioral change in this woman’s thought processes that will have YOU – and not those other jerks – being the answer to her fantasies.
It’s all inside Rapid and Total Success With Women.
“You refuse to resort to bullying, begging, buying, bs, booze, or biceps”
But certainly not bondage….
@Harry
Some guys are into that sort of thing. 🙂
RJ
Why’s this guy worrying bout some carousel riding chicken head?
Next that ho and off you go. Find you another one on the next block.
To all you Captain Save A Hos- don’t save her she don’t wanna be saved.
Like K Camp say- it ain’t nothing to cut a bitch off.
@Cedric
Although “Exit Stage Left” applies about 99% of the time, I think in this case student was testing to see if this was autopilot response on her part, or how she really presents herself.
Also let go of the assumption that there is any rationale behind her irrational behavior. Even if there is, it might be nothing more than a screen to filter out the ther-rapists. Maybe a better question is why “figuring her out” is so attractive to you and if that really make any sense at all.
All great points @Zarathud!
Ross, I am the dude you met at a Shinzen retreat from Mexico, and I don’t know if you remember all the embroilment I wrote once. But now I just wanna say, I got laid a few weeks ago, and now I know how to get laid! I don’t think I have used explicitly any hypnotic pattern, but you have been a great Guru, and there were some things that I had to figure out myself, I now definitely feel more confident and tranquil with myself and my women. Thank you!
@G
I am honored to be your teacher. As you continue to experience more of your results with your women who you truly desire to be with, here’s a mantra to keep you moving forward and upward:
“Show me better, show me more, show me more, show me better, now”
Ross,
I totally have this problem. I once met this smokin hot 19 year old online. The guy she was with previously beat her, left her after sex etc. Yet I couldn’t even get her phone number. Do you have any pattern modules for that? I swear, point me to where you do and I’ll buy it right now.
I consider myself a genuinely warm and caring person and what comes naturally and very easily to me is listen to a woman intently. I had a girlfriend (who even wanted to marry me) with whom in the initial stages she would tell me about a guy she was involved with before but he was a liar, a cheat blah blah. Everytime she said this, if I remember correctly (it’s been a while) I always used to ask her, “Well what are you going to do about it?”. Sometimes I’d say, “Some guys are idiots. And you are also an ass if you let him treat you like shit”. As the days passed I found her becoming more and more attracted to me, and I wondered if the asshole was just an ‘excuse’ she was making so that she could be with me. haha! You never know!!
Ross, I don’t know what exactly a therapist does. But I do think it’s a noble profession. Afterall a therapist helps people and sometimes even saves lives, and society as a whole might be worse off without them. I did care enough to listen to her, and it was ALWAYS this girl who used to call me, text me first. I had a busy job then, and by the time I’d come back home (I would avoid taking her calls at work) I’d be tired. So I’d just shower, have dinner and hit the bed only to wake up next morning and find my phone full of texts and ‘missed calls’. So although I didn’t avoid her, my job and lifestyle meant that there was only so much time I could spare for anybody, not just her.
Anyway after sometime she just stopped talking about the other guy (not that I was intimidated even if she did). But yes, I guess I could to this because I was detached. She was not my ideal woman anyway. Maybe if a girl is your type it might be harder to stay detached, but yes staying detached surely works if you can do it. But thinking that a woman runs away just because you are nice is a folly. It’s been my experience that you can be as nice (actually pleasant) as you want as long as you’re not needy.