Dear Seeker of Success,
In all areas of life, a key ingredient to success, whatever your definition of that word, is persistence.
Now let’s say you’re persistent, but something keeps going persistently wrong?
Or, looking at it another way, if something is persistently tripping you up or blocking you from claiming your results?
Let’s hear from a student who seems to be able to Sarge only in bars (ironic, I know, given that’s one of the hardest places to Sarge and one of the least recommended places as far as I am concerned):
I’m not afraid to approach women, I’m having trouble getting from right after hello and going into pattern at will, Also trouble with state control. I bring me old self with me it persistently stays. It sucks, I have had success but only in bars mostly that where I’m more anchored in good feeling and in a bar it the right place to sarge but outside going along with everyday tasks its difficult. Breaking state Im having trouble understanding.If I can get to patterns I got em but getting Im having trouble.,,
So what’s the “big idea” here?The big idea is this:
You probably don’t need to add anything in.
You probably just have to subtract out whatever internal processes are getting in the way.
You’ve got good feelings and no problem in a bar which is where MOST guys have trouble!
So what is NOT going on in your head, in a bar, that DOES go on in your head, elsewhere?
Or, what goes on in your head, outside of bar, that is ABSENT when you are in a bar?
What you need to do is subtract out what is getting in your way, when you are NOT in a bar.
Once you identify that, you’re one step closer to no-holds-bar-red success with the women you truly desire.
Peace,
RJ
P.S. Are you sick and tired of letting sexy, beautiful women pass right in front of you while you sit there virtually paralyzed not knowing exactly what to do or say to meet them?
No longer will this be an impediment:
Are we talking subconscious patterns here? If we are, (and as far as I understand it) the need to consciously change are habits is key. Up until now we have run most of are lives on autopilot (relatively speaking). To break these subconscious patterns which hold us back, we must “ALWAYS” identify and correct when needed until it becomes natural to be happier within… If you know what I mean.
Pavlov? set and setting? you know a lot of exercise equipment doesn’t get used because it’s in a setting for ease and comfort,ie, the living room, etc.
You could probably ‘trick’ yourself by reminding yourself of how much the ‘bar scene’ and the library, or work, or…are similar. Or even trance yourself …or someone else…into accepting that. “Hello, I’m Zeebee from the Planet
Unt-hunt and this is how we lay out our bars, there’s always a copy machine over there instead of the jukebox…” etc.
Or open your own innocence by becoming a ‘secret’ anthropologist and asking the friendly native to guide you…which is a similar but not quite the same approach. Stay alert and on your toes for this one: a lot of great women haven’t ‘played’ with men like this since they were little girls…and it seems to create fine connections and more…
Betcha that El Ross has thirty dozen ways to move your strengths into ANY location you want to move into and create great tsunamiis of pleasure…really move things around…and frankly, bars are really a sucky hunting ground. Maybe it’s genetics as well as culture, but it’s the bottom of the well. Unless you’re fishing in the clinic waiting line. Check your “license”, maybe you need to troll in other waters…
I feel more comfortable approaching in bars myself. Its something I need to work on. You meet more quality women i the day time, too.