Dear Seeker of Success,
Whenever I hear someone is in a relationship, my first question: is it a relationship, or a real-hate-shun-ship by default?
Your married pal – does he have a wife-for-life who inspires him every day, or a “whyfe” he does everything to avoid?
Before we go any further, let me be clear: if you’ve found that special someone, and it’s truly right for both of you, GOOD ON YOU!
However, about 50% of all marriages are doomed to divorce. You wanted a wife but you ended up with a “whyfe.”
They say it’s because “values are changing” or “people don’t respect the sanctity of marriage anymore”, etc. Whatever.
No. NOT true.
Why do guys stay in “real-hate-shun-ships by default” and stay saddled to the “whyfe” who makes them ask why?
Here are some of the stunning reasons I’ve heard over the years, often from guys who otherwise seem to have life handled:
- “It’s cheaper to keep her.” (He fears having to pay up in a divorce settlement with this “whyfe”, so he endures a living hell and possibly finding the REAL woman of his dreams, simply to avoid writing a check which might be his ticket to lifetime happiness.)
- “She was my high school sweetheart, and our families have been friends for generations. It would upset a lot of people if we broke up.” (So, WHO ARE YOU MARRIED TO, pal???)
- “We stay together for the kids.” (Yeah, the kids who live in a miserable home because your real-hate-shun-ship ain’t workin’. Kids DO see what’s going on with you and the “whyfe”.)
- “I was taught: you’re supposed to be married by the time you’re 30, and you have a responsibility to provide grandchildren for your parents.” (So, everyone in your family has ALWAYS been HAPPY and has made PRODUCTIVE CONTRIBUTIONS?)
- “Man, I’ve never had a girl as fine as she is. And hey, nothing’s perfect. I can deal with her spazzing out on me because I probably won’t find one THIS hot ever again.” (Correction: I calculate there are 35,000 women at least as hot as she is.)
- “Happiness is what they put in the movies. This is REAL LIFE, Ross, not some fairy tale. I don’t play games.” (No XBox for you, huh?)
Let me add: Speed Seduction® ain’t just about getting laid.
Want a girlfriend? Looking for a wife-for-life (and NOT a “whyfe”)? Great!
Then use my teachings to cut through the bull***t “dating rituals” and “social programming” and you’re MORE LIKELY to find a life partner who will satisfy you in every way.
In fact, my teachings also help guys who are married and in relationships keep the “spark” burning hot.
Look: it’s your life. You deserve the opportunity to create the results and the happiness with the women you truly desire.
Are you living a life of fulfillment with a girlfriend of wife, or a life by default with a “whyfe”?
Peace,
RJ
P.S. Are you fed up having to settle for low quality, average women, or worse – being alone? Well, if you CHOOSE to live a life by default, it really is your fault. Because you don’t have to.
Click here for a solution that skips over the nonsense and gets you the women you REALLY want.
great comments,ross!you can almost see the word “surrender” in the subtext of those excuses.here’s one that i thought would definitely be on your list because i’ve heard it often.”aren’t you afraid of dying all alone?”yeah,i want to spend a lifetime with someone so she’s there when i kick the bucket.really?i usually point out that women outlive men so she’ll watch me die and then she will die all alone.kind of rattles their cage.
50% divorce rate, and the other group of people who are miserable and stay married,
“Mr Airline Pilot, will the flight make it to Houston? ”
“Hard to say..it’s 50/50”
Speaking of song brainwashing, came across this gem from Katey (“cum stains”) Perry
If You Can Afford Me Songtext :
If you want me,
The cherry on top,
The pick of the pack,
The crème de le crop,
If you want me you better do better than that tonight
Oh, oh
If you want me,
It takes more than a wink,
More than a drink,
More than you think,
If you want me you’re gonna have to break the bank tonight
‘Cause some don’t have the patience,
Some call me high-maintenance
But you pay the bill,
‘Cause that’s the deal,
If you wanna ride,
Just name your price,
And don’t play cheap with your heart,
Don’t make a bet if you can’t write the check,
For me, for me,
Cause I can be bought,
But you pay the cost,
If you can afford me
If you want me,
I’m not a piece of ass,
A one night stand,
A storage shed,
I think you better walk by,
Tonight,
Oh, no
If you want me,
Then stop begging,
I don’t put out,
For charity,
If you want me, there’s no discount price tonight
But I don’t need your dollar bills,
I just want something real,
Cause nothings free,
Except loving me,
If you wanna ride,
Just name your price,
And don’t play cheap with your heart,
Don’t make a bet if you can’t write the check,
For me, for me,
Cause I can be bought,
But you pay the cost,
If you can afford me
If you want me,
The cherry on top,
The pick of the pack,
The crème de le crop,
If you wanna ride,
Just name your price,
And don’t play cheap with your heart,
Don’t make a bet if you can’t write the check,
For me, for me,
Cause I can be bought,
But you pay the cost,
If you can afford…
If you wanna ride,
Just name your price,
And don’t play cheap with your heart,
Don’t make a bet if you can’t write the check,
For me, for me,
Cause I can be bought,
But you pay the cost,
If you can afford me
Chinese proverb:
A woman is like your shadow. Walk away and she follows. Pursue her and she flees.
Dear Ross,
You have so powerfully nailed this one. I think you should know that a year ago, even after a whole lot of practice, and training and other courses, I was miserably alone. I had a conversation with an attractive women that started out fun but suddenly got weird and awkward. I just didn’t know what to do next. I knew I had to do something different or suffer the same misery. I finally read one of your blog posts and realized that you were the real deal. I ordered your basic speed seduction course.
I got it and listened over and over. It changed my life. I an now in a relationship that is totally different and better than any I’ve ever been in before. I credit your teaching with a lot of it. The attitudinal shift alone was the big piece for me. To stop supplicating, begging and buying and stepping into the role of a man who is the leader… thank you again.
Mark
@Mark Sheppard
“If a man has 100 sheep, but one of the sheep becomes lost, then the man will leave the other 99 sheep on the hill. He will go to look for the lost sheep. Right? And if the man finds the lost sheep, the man is happier about that one sheep than about the 99 sheep that were never lost.
Sometimes we really must think about what we have to leave behind in order to get to all the success we want…
Damn, Orson put a lot of work into that…unfortunately that seems to be the mindset of most women, though. Even divorced women that said they ‘went through hell’ will only remain girlfriends for so long before demanding to be re-enslaved.
That’s when you need KK’s “Marriage Deflectors”!
1. Her: “I’d make you the happiest man on Earth!”
You: “I thought you already DID! Apparently you’re holding OUT on me!”
2. Her: “You deny it, but you need someone to take care of you!”
You: “Great! That means you can change the head gasket on a Dodge Challenger?”
3. Her: “We’re not getting any younger…”
You: “So? Aging is the balancing force of nature. What’s getting married going to do, let us travel through time?”
4. Her: “All my friends think you’re using me!”
You: “All your friends can think whatever. I’m actually letting YOU use ME.”
(BTW–since the sexes are equal, why don’t WOMEN pop the question or buy the ring? Hmmm?)
Keep ’em COMIN’, K.K.
When you have CHOICE, AND you know it everything becomes way easier, you can pick your cherries, and when THEY know or sense you have all the choice you could possibly need or want women please you all the time.
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