Dear Seeker of Success,
A student of mine was watching a Bono interview – the singer from U2.
He said the video was magnetic – Bono had such charisma, like He doesn’t need to do anything. People are drawn to him.
I agree: Bono’s intense.
When you hear him talk, you get a sense that this person has a mission in life. He knows he’s going somewhere important. He believes in what he’s doing. His belief in himself is so strong that other people are drawn to him.
This raises the question:
Is It Possible For You To Gain
The Kind Of Charisma That Bono Has?
I think it’s very possible – and I’ve helped students get it.
Here’s the trick: in the beginning you’ll need to build what I call “self-charisma.”
Self-charisma has to do with acceptance and confidence.
It means that rather than pretending to be sure of yourself, you step into the really good relationship with your uncertainty.
If you’re uncertain, you don’t let the uncertainty decide for you where you’re going to go.
You say, “I’m feeling uncertain right now. I’m not sure what’s going to happen right now. I am choosing to go talk to that person anyway and see what will happen,” rather than making it about being totally certain.
After all,
Bono Didn’t Become A Charisma
Machine Overnight…
In fact, to this day, he may not have that kind of a certainty in every context in his life.
There may be some areas of life where he doesn’t feel that certain…
…But It Didn’t Stop Him Then
And It Doesn’t Stop Him Now!
And that, too, is natural.
Peace,
RJ
P.S. The New Code is all about creating a deep, personal tranceformation so that your success with women becomes a living work of art – a totally new way of moving through your world that makes women long to have you in their world.
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How do we come to know our true mission in life? How do we get a sense that we are going somewhere? Or what path to take ? Especially if you’re coming out of a well paying but wrong career and all you see is uncertainty all around you but the only reason you took this step is because you know you don’t want to ‘settle’ for something that doesn’t truly fulfill you and you took the bold step forward and landed up in the field of uncertainty.
@Harsh
First step is to take the first step. A healthy relationship with uncertainty is good. It gives you power others only dream of.
Thanks for clarifying Ross. Just FYI I’m.studying the Magick, M, NLI course at the moment as I thought it would be most relevant and appropriate for me under these circumstances. I realised that I was making a huge mistake trying to visualize my desire and outcome of an ideal life all the time. Now for the first time in my life I have the time to PROPERLY study your courses. That in itself is a blessing. And then I will adapt whatever I learn to my present situation. Do I have to unlearn everything I learnt before I found you? I mean with regards to personal growth. Because I often find what I learnt from other people in the past conflicts and trying to make sense of it all leads to a lot of confusion and spinning the wheels. Especially other people just say ‘fight through the pain’, ‘keep your mind on your goals all the time’. That’s stressful and sometimes the goal is not clear. You’re the only one who knows pain is neither to bought into nor resisted! That is profoundly different than just ‘fighting and carrying on’. You also teach that in goal setting we must know when to set specific goals and when just to provide an overall sense of direction. Brilliant idea again! So my question is – Can I safely let go of everything I learned before I found you and just focus on your teachings and get the books and audios you recommend? Almost like terraforming the psyche right from the scratch….. It may be a lot of work but I have the time, curiosity and willingness to learn for sure. Would be great if you could shed some light on this or during the next call, whichever is best. Or recommend some book or audio. Anything. But these are my biggest doubts.
@Harsh
Bring this to our next coaching call.
“terraforming the psyche right from the scratch” … now that’s deep almost like the term brain washing which to be honest we could all use lol!
Thanks for your insights @WCR! 🙂