Dear Seeker of Success,
One of the most frequent questions I get is, “What happens if she x’s when I run a pattern?”
X could be “laugh” or “look bored” or whatever “negative” response you might think of.
A fundamental principle of any kind of persuasion (and seduction IS a sub-set of persuasion) is,
“USE WHATEVER RESPONSE SHE GIVES YOU”
To put it more clearly, I have a set of beliefs I come from:
- I never take her first response as written in stone. It’s just a reflection of what she is thinking feeling or believing in THAT moment(or the part of her mind she is coming from) and it is always subject to change.
- Anything she offers me is just a toy for me to play with.
- Anything she offers me is just information I can use
- Anything she offers me is just energy to be redirected
- She can do whatever she wants: I CONTROL WHERE MY ENERGY GOES.
So let’s say a woman “laughs” at you or with you when you run a pattern.
The first thing to realize is, they are NOT laughing it off. They are laughing it IN. Oftentimes, what you are getting is the laugh of recognition, not the laugh of resistance.
But let’s say she IS resisting a bit. Remember this: resistance is just a sign she is responding strongly to what you are offering and is scared of how strongly she is responding.
What she is seeking is some safety and a measure of feeling a bit more in control.
In that case, simply change the subject. If you are describing an incredible connection, and you see she is in to it, but suddenly she does a 180 and looks a bit uncomfortable, BACK OFF.
Simply change the tone to something lighter or something funny. Point out something going on in the environment around you, “Oh my God, did you see what your cat just did?” Give her a chance to regain some comfort, then go back to the direction you were going.
We call this “fractionation” in traditional hypnosis. Each time you go into a trance and then are brought back out, you go progressively deeper in the next time and the time after that.
The other aspect of this is self-control: keeping your state solid and steady and grounded, even when she APPEARS to be unresponsive or responding “negatively”.
Remember, it is the meaning and interpretation you give things, along with how you direct your body’s energetic flow that determines what will happen.
The more you can stay relaxed in the immediate present, without referencing your past or worrying about the future, the more you can bring your power and skills to bear in even the diciest situations.
Now, things will not always work out as planned; you will still find situations that don’t go as you like, but you will have stretched yourself into new areas of learning and be more capable for the next wonderful woman(or whacked out witch) who comes your way.
Peace,
RJ
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Thanks Ross for this awesome post! It cleared up quite a few things because the last time I tried running a pattern on a girl I met at a dance club, she was a 35 y/o sexy cougar. I tried the “feel attracted” pattern and after a moment she left to go to the bathroom later on I heard from her friend that I scared her somehow, (this is not the first time this happens) I was slightly with a “wtf” look on my face cuz these girls were really diggin us So I assumed I might have leaned on it a bit too hard. But now that you say, they may have been responding strongly to the pattern, it makes a little bit more sense.
?”But let’s say she IS resisting a bit. Remember this: resistance is just a sign she is responding strongly to what you are offering and is scared of how strongly she is responding.”
And she may respond two months later when you see her again, which has happened to me.
“In that case, simply change the subject. If you are describing an incredible connection, and you see she is in to it, but suddenly she does a 180 and looks a bit uncomfortable, BACK OFF.’
Happned once with a married lady….was smiling at me prior then I used IC..she went completely cold, unresponsive and could not get her back again
that was really so helpful Ross but you said (Remember, it is the meaning and interpretation you give things, along with how you direct your body’s energetic flow that determines what will happen)
So how technically can you direct your Body’s Energetic flow
Or what do you mean exactly by this
yes – energy flow within and then out of the body to someone else ….these two topics are the main subject and critical
Hi RJ,
Thanks for the blog, it’s useful .
I recently purchased your Speedseduction 3, and so far I love this stuff, I have also done an NLP practitioner level last year and it all makes sense to me.
my question is what is the best way to go about the material, what I mean is, the most effective way ? best practices etc …
BTW what will be the added value to see you live in a weekend seminar?
Kindly,
John Lavi
Hi Ross
In a nutshell (no puns intended) what you advocating is,
Irrespective of the actual X experience, it’s the meaning “I CHOOSE”
to make out of that x experience which decide whether I’m successful or not. In other words, if she pours her drink over my head in front of all her friends(by the way true story),Instead me, focusing on humiliation & pain that goes with it and blaming seduction patterns or myself for the undesired result. I could choose to see it as sign of disgust on herself for being so easy. Am I with you or lost again.
It’s more of a sign of someone who you don’t want to be dealing with and use that experience to add to your intuition that you are building. Usually things like that don’t happen so when they do size up the situation and use it for more power of the person who you are every day more and more becoming. I’m sure Ross would agree. In a better explained way.
My mind tends to wander, both during pick up and during life in general. How can I learn to become more “present” or “in the moment”?
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What you said about “self control” is so much more than it seems. You had a lady guest appear in one of your seminars who mentioned “Self Emanation.” That really stood out to me as an interesting way of thinking about it.
RJ,
Do you believe it could be a possibility that you get some women who are genuinely ‘immune’ to patterns or being sarged in general? Are there a select few who can never be turned?
Does “I decide where my energy goes” mean: I decide how to interprete the situation? If not, what eles does it mean?