Dear Speed Seduction® Master-In-Training,
I was at one of my local hangouts in LA, working on some e-mails on the WiFi while checking out the bevy of bodacious babes that were swarming the place….and Sarging on a few of them.
My concentration got interrupted by a scene caused by a very desperate looking fellow.
See, this is the type of place where, after you finish your food order, you take the tray up and dump your garbage in the trash receptacle and then leave your tray.
Apparently, he had gotten some hot chick’s number and had accidentally left it on his tray when he tossed it. He left the restaurant, then realized his mistake, and came back hoping to get the phone number back. He was pleading with the manager for help. Coincidentally, the restaurant staff had just emptied that particular receptacle and taken its trash out to the dumpster in the back.
So he said to the manager: “No problem, I’ll just go into the dumpster and dig it out. It’s the one on top right?”
Manager’s flat-out, no-bullshit, no-messing-around response: “No, you won’t.”
Cut to the chase: guy who thought he was about to score with some babe, walks out dejected, knowing he “blew it.“
Yeah, I’d say he blew it…
He Blew It, Big Time
He blew it from the moment he set “scoring the digits” as his goal.
If this chick was so hot (and hot for him), what stopped him from scheduling a follow up meeting with her, then and there?
What stopped him from making his move, then and there?
Why did he take what was happening RIGHT THEN and willfully postpone it until an undefined “later” that might (and now DEFINITELY will) never come?
Dude…you’ve just been screened…OUT.
Too many smart guys are programmed into following “dating rituals.” Wait to get her number…wait two days to call her…then wait two days to see her…wait till the end of the date to give her a kiss…then wait till the next day to call her to say it was great…and then wait a day before calling back to ask for the next “date.”
Here’s what I say…
“Wait” On THIS.
It’s true, the women ARE waiting. For you.
So, champ, what in the name of Nina’s navel ring are YOU waiting FOR?
If she’s here, now... and she seems interested, now… make your move, NOW.
If she says no, fine, move on.
But when she says yes (and she’s more likely to say yes because the vibe in the air that has her intrigued RIGHT NOW will dissipate if you go away and try to come back later), the results will sure beat a poke in the eye.
Peace and piece,
RJ
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Not only beeing caught into the dating frame, but also people wait in order to try avoiding disappointment… Someone once said that you can´t “try” to do anything and be succesfull, because “trying” brings on itself an inherent chance of failure… that´s also true in this case, because waiting too much will disappoint you one way or the other. That´s why the learning and experimenting frame is so useful since you cannot not learn from your mistakes, since you start doing it. I wish this poor child of God, whose behaviour is repeatedly taken by so many other people all around the globe, could see things through this lens of learning, so even this mistake of waiting too much for the wrong thing could assist him to grow better and better in the near future.
No, you wont!!!! priceless!
Ross, great utilization of inline anchor links from e-mail to article. I hate having to scroll shit I’ve already read.
Looks like we’ll be hearing “Ross’ (real-life) Dumpster Morale #2”.. I’ve heard the first one from you sooooo many times! 😉
Oh, and why didn’t YOU tell the guy the first story and then WHO YOU WERE!?? You could have potentially gained a new client. He’s not necessarily a destined chump.
I mean, I don’t think I would give another guy advice, but clearly this is how you make a living 😉
Yeah, it was probably a fake number anyway.
His desperation to retrieve the number from the trash shows he is not accostomed to meeting beautiful women and any woman would pick up on that.
COOOOOOOL
Ross, well put. But the pics of hot chics you post with your articles are really manipulative 🙂
Guys also get phone-numbers as a way to procrastinate and get distance via calling her up later, rather than asking her then and there. For all we know, this hot chick’s number could have been FAKE anyway, since EVERY schmuck asks for a phone-number because he’s too nervous and intimidated to ask her out then and there; and as we all know, women can smell fear like a deer, and it’ll drive her away even faster.
Hey, just wana say you doing a great thing man, but i seem to have a problem. You see, i can talk to girls, but now problem is when i wnt to close, i just get there cell numbers, then after that, a date never materialise. Also wana add, how do you still get the girl to remain captivated over the phone so as that she just realises she has to see you first chance she gets. Twice that has happend to me and i do’t wna constantly phone and ask when she is free… But i have to sayyou have made me finaly be able to flirt with the ladies, but now i just gotta know, how to close and with at least a goo make out if not a date.
this is so, so timely and right on Ross. Just the other day, to prove your point, I ran into a girl i had sarged earlier and she actually invited me to “hang out” with her, so i knew it was on, but because I was kinda busy i had to make the meetup for the next day. when the next day came, she flaked! i could not believe it because she had been so eager just a day before. i needed to strike while the iron was hot that same day.
Hi ross,
i definately understand exactly what you are saying about these socially prgrammed rules of the dating game.
I am just wondering, if im sarging a girl, and its going really well, whats the best way to phrase i want to shedual a foolow up meeting with you?
And should i still get her number after?
Hearts…
This isn’t my question to answer but if it can help give it a go.
1st. Don’t ask. Create an opportunity for her to get to meet you again. Like it’s in her best interest if she can catch you.
Say something like. “You know, it’s a shame we might never get to meet again. …… but if you find you really want to and see how much more fun we can have together. . What steps could we take to..find that happening. ..” then if she gives you her number it’s her investment. But remember that number is only to arrange meetings. …not to become a sex pest.
Hope this helps….just test it.
TTFN
Bush x
A+ on that one. Did my IG on a recent interaction that happened over a period of time and came to the same conclusion. Missed making moves in the moment long before I realized it was over when she didn’t respond to a date request.
There are several things I would add for other guys or encourage you to expand on if you’re so inclined. I was caught up in social boundaries, but I realized more as a matter of control than of respecting our mutual desires. That and also controlling, afraid of her emotions in the moment, when those are exactly what would move her in the direction I want.
@Z
I think women often freeze up when they feel very aroused, NOT because they fear being seen as a “slut”, but rather they realize that, at least for a moment, they are going to lose their sense of control and become someone different than what they were just moments ago. Great sex requires a loss of control and that can be scary.
RJ
Nice wrinkle on a great story
Please, I don’t want a poke in the eye.