Dear Speed Seduction® Student,
Ever heard the saying “Nice guys finish last?”
Many smart guys, in their quest to succeed with more women, have been frustrated to wits end by the number of times they have made their move on that hottie, only to end up going home alone … while she goes home with some jerk.
Some guys end up buying into the idea that women like jerks, and confuse the idea of being confident around women, with acting like a jerk to get her hot and bothered.
More often than not, what ends up happening is … you just look like a jerk. Case in point: this student’s dilemma…
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I need some help to get over this. I seem to have a deeply embedded reflex of being a total jerk to almost every woman I meet. I get so caught up in challenging her that I come across as a complete jerk. This is not on purpose, however. This is a natural reaction that has formed over the years, and it’s not helping me at all. I’ve been told it’s because I’m angry or it’s something from my past. Anybody know of a way to rid myself of all this hostility and aggresivity?
I had dinner with a girl named Amanda. It was a great dinner, then we went back to her place. The night ended rather well, although no physical contact. But then, I met her roommate a couple of days later. In an attempt at being playful and messing with her head, as I like to do with women, I hinted that Amanda had a threesome with two of my buddies. Well, Amanda got wind of this and got really POed at me, saying I called her a whore.
This exchange happened through email, since Amanda won’t meet me in person. Now I’m lucky if she’ll say “hi” to me if she sees me around. Is there any way to fix this? I’ve heard that making her feel such a powerful emotion of hating me is actually very good if I could get her to convert her hate into love or the like. Is this anywhere near plausible?
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You said that you think you might be angry (at women) because of something from your past. The past explains how you got to where you are today. It’s not to be denied. The past represented the BEST you could do, up till now. Now, THANK the part of you that was acting like a total jerk.
Acknowledge the past, do whatever you need to do to clean up the mess, AND then focus on how you want to be from this moment on. And: ask the part of you that has been making you a jerk if it would be responsible to generate some NEW choices in your thinking and behavior that could serve its ORIGINAL intent, but do it in new and exciting ways.
Peace and piece,
RJ
P.S. No matter what you’ve been through, experienced or encountered, that has made you angry and frustrated or made you need (or want) to act like a jerk, you can turn it around now, turn confusion to clarity and losing to learning!
With my Nail Your Inner Game course, the frustration you’ve experienced with women will convert to pure, usable learning so you do things right the next time, instead of being a total jerk. Grab your copy today:
https://www.seduction.com/blog/nailyourinnergame/
P.P.S. Another great way to overcome past frustrations is through interactive exercises, in real-time. On October 16-18, in New York City, spend two days with me LIVE in my next Speed Seduction® seminar and we’ll walk through some exercises together:
“Acknowledge the past, do whatever you need to do to clean up the mess, AND then focus on how you want to be from this moment on”
simple, but solid. I was doing it the other way around, but since it was the “jerk” in me who created the mess in the first place it makes much more sense to let it be the “jerk in me” who cleans it up. That way, my “inner jerk” can help me become the Man I want to be FROM THIS MOMENT ON.
thx Ross and be well.
PS. I sent you an email last night, but no worries this post + some tough love I got from another guru just cleared everything up for me.