Dear Seeker of Success,
A student of mine shared that he doesn’t have approach anxiety except when he gets to women who are like an “8” or higher.
Then he shuts down.
He asked me, “What can I do to overcome the shutting down?”
Here we have a guy who does well with women until they get to be like an eight, nine or 10, whatever the hell that means for him.
Then, he starts to have a problem.
Does this sound familiar? I’ll bet it does.
As a teacher, I listen to how people language things and say, “Is that really the situation? Is the way he’s languaging this controlling the way he can see his options, therefore controlling what he can do and the results?”
I’ve said this time and again: The way in which you think about a subject determines what you can see as a choice, and therefore what you can do and what results you get.
Thinking About It As “Shutting
Down” Isn’t Accurate
From my experience teaching thousands of guys since 1993, I can tell you that when it comes to beautiful women, guys don’t shut down, they amp up.
Basically, there’s so much electricity and energy vibrating through their neurology because of all the sexual excitement, that the higher assemblies of the brain just get shut down!
As my own teacher, Shinzen Young, likes to say, there’s only so much real estate in consciousness. If all of your focus and attention is going into the feelings rushing through your body, you don’t have a lot left over for the cognitive parts of your mind.
Think about that.
In Part II, we delve into some key cognitive understandings that get you powerfully handling this issue.
Peace,
RJ
P.S. Understanding and changing your personal metaphor allows you to make contact with, and look deeply into, the depths of your unconscious and the heights of your super-conscious mind. It automatically takes all of your stumbling blocks and turns them into stepping stones.
We’ll unlock this for you in London on July 30th and 31st.
