Dear Speed Seduction® Student,
There’s a common saying in street fighting that 95% of all real fights wind up in a clinch and go to the ground. Could that really be true? Frankly, I don’t know. But I will say this: 95% of the time, a woman will test you by the second meet, or sooner, to see:
- If you’ll take her bullshit.
- How hungry you are for her attention (remember: those who look hungry, never get fed)
- Just how much control she can exert over you and/or the relationship.
You CAN pass those tests – and do some testing of your own. Believe me, this is important.
If you’ve ever been dumped for being “too nice”, or have been told, time and again, “let’s just be friends”, it’s because you haven’t learned to recognize when you’re being tested or just haven’t yet learned how to properly respond.
You thought you would get points for being “co-operative” and “helpful”, and instead you just got the fuzzy end of the lollipop.
Why She Tests You: The Search For Strength And Certainty
Look: one of the primary things that women are looking for from a man is security; the feeling that someone is stronger than they are. When you put a woman in her place, when you set rules and boundaries for her to follow, it lets her know she can relax around you and feel comfortable and secure.
This search for strength is the single most important reason why she tests you.
The other factor is ambivalence, or what I call the “make up my mind for me” syndrome. You see, often a woman just isn’t that interested in you one way or another. Maybe you aren’t exactly the physical type she goes for, maybe she just got burned in a bad relationship, or there’s some unseen competitor who she’s waiting to hear from.
Whatever her reasons, you can tell this is happening when you hear something like, “Uh…well, I’d like to go out with you Friday, but why don’t you call me late Friday afternoon and I’ll let you know for sure?”
Finally, there is the fact that sometimes, modern women just get overwhelmed with eighty billion things they are trying to do at once. And, when overwhelmed, they flake on commitments that occur during the peak of the overwhelm.
Now, stay with me… in my next post I will show you just how to handle it.
Peace and piece,
RJ
P.S. Every situation is different, as you can see there are as many reasons for a woman to give you a B.S. test as there are B.S. tests. The best way to learn to overcome these – and other – girl-getting challenges is to learn from those who have mastered them already. You’ll find lots of this in the 120+ videos of the Speed Seduction® Secret Training Collection. Click here to get instant, lifetime access right now.
About the street fighting thing…YES it ends in a cinch but it does not end on the ground as long as you have some fight left in you, you gotta keep the guy from kicking you by kicking him in the feet while you’re on the ground.
About the tests, at times girls test you the second they start talking, once I had one girl start giving me interview type questions the moment she opened her mouth, she was the one who started the conversation and was obviously interested. Unfortunately I submitted and that was the first and also the last time that she spoke to me.
Warm AH’O..Dear Ross,
As a Native American man my atribute to embrace a fusion between a female connection its based with pure Passion Joy and let go..which means Unconditionally…but yes all its about Inner Drive Power to control this same massive Power about we all are able to apply it inside this concept but unfortunately very few do it..Thank you so much to share this Amazing teachings and help many to rediscovery themselves in Joy…
WALK IN BEAUTY…
what does it mean when a girl doesn’t shit test at all or put up any type of resistance?
She is low value, and promiscuous.
No shit test = low value; no resistance = promiscuous.
I’m just stating the simple fact that how good your game seems doesn’t mean shit because if the girl is a hoe… she will go along with everything from the get-go. You could literally could have bypassed all of the fluff talk and just walked up and said “Let’s go fuck” and
This is a very thought-out explaination & sounds pretty accurate. Thanks Ross!!
How do you recognize that moment? Can she aslo test you subtly with out giving you bullshit? I emailed this girl and she mailed me back. There was warmth and caring in her tone. Then when I talk to her she says, “I emailed you even thou gh I had no intention to”. I was too stunned and just didn’t say anything to that. It was only later when I thought about it that that I started wondering, “Was she kidding coz her email was so friendly.” Then there is another thought that goes, “Maybe she was testing me.” And I know this girl for a long time (4 years). I can’t meet her coz she stays in another country but she is one of the most interesting girls I have met and even she says the same to me. In fact she even tells me that her parents are searching for a boy to get her married and then goes on to say that no one appeals to her and no one meets those standards that I have set. Then sometimes she says , “I have always tried to keep things simple between us.” She talks about me to the most trustworthy people in her life and says she doesn’t trust anyone like she trusts me. I have a feeling that she is somehow loves me (not just attracted) but she can’t say it because it will be painful for her and she will find it difficuilt to move on (As I know for sure that we can never meet in person). If you are willing to help me understand her Ross, I can post her replies and my emails verbatim here so that people can read and learn. Whatever you feel is right. But you also have to keep in mind that she is a Muslim girl with a conservative upbringing, so although the animal within her is very much there, she has been told parents, God and society that its a sin to bring that side out until she is married.
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