“Suddenly, Women Are EVERYWHERE!”

Interesting stuff about these sigils, Ross! By the way, what helped me to get rid of my approach anxiety and to be able to effortlessly sexually attract women are only two things: first off, completely emptying my mind from all my intention to approach and pick up any woman out there, and second off, boosting up my sexual confidence. I did the former thing purely because I realized that the only thing that was holding me back and making my approach anxiety worse and worse was my inner unnecessary pressure and thought of having to approach such and such number of women and pick up and have sex with such and such number of women a week while using such and such opener from such and such pick up artist. Once I got rid of all this chaotic mess and rubbish in my head and got my mind totally emptied from all that shit, I was able to see clearly what was really holding me back. As a result, I realized that the main thing that was holding me back was the lack of sexual confidence in terms of vibing off those important sexual signals to women through both my body language and my words.

Ross, since I know you’re a well-respected and open-minded man and the passion-driven master of seduction the way you see it and believe in it and we also once chatted on Skype while I was located in my home country Croatia (as you might or might not remember now), I must say that I really feel home writing a comment in here. In that spirit, I’ve thought of adding some extra value to your scientifically proven stuff and to your site’s visitors by sharing my true story on how I actually overcome my dreadful approach anxiety and got to enjoy my first ever experience of being able to effortlessly sexually attract a woman and make her chase me.

So, here’s my story.

My approach anxiety was getting worse and worse all because I was putting myself in high anxiety inducing situations in an attempt to overcome my kind of insecurities and fears around meeting women. And, once again, the outcome was that my efforts to overcome my insecurities and fears this way was making my anxiety even worse so that I almost felt that I was completely losing myself. Later I’ve learned that some seduction artists like to call this problem “overcompensating your own insecurities and fears” by purely acting on your fears and not on your actual passion and pleasure about doing it.”

It felt so unnatural and awkward inside the whole of me that all my body almost started to tremble and shake with an unbelievably dreadful fear of being in a close vicinity of women in public places. And, the funny thing is that before I actually found the pickup community and started testing this pickup stuff on the field, I never ever had even the slightest bit of any kind of social anxiety or fear when it came to meeting new people, approaching random girls and even successfully picking up these girls’ phone numbers, and stuff like that.

Then one day when I started to see that my daily errands started to look to me like a big sea full of sharks where the sharks were random women all around me – the women that I was feeling forced to approach, I realized that what was causing my panicky and unnatural approach anxiety getting worse and worse wasn’t actually the approach anxiety itself but all the unnecessary pressure that I was constantly putting on myself every time I was about to go out. I’m talking about the pressure of having to use such and such opener, the pressure of having to approach such and such number of women a day, the pressure of having to pick up at least 3 different women a week and have sex with each one of them the same week, for example. So, the bottom line was that what was killing me were all those pressures – the kind of pressures of constantly putting myself in high anxiety inducing situations in an attempt to overcome my kind of insecurities and fears around meeting women. For example, one of these situations was me regularly making 5 minute short tram (tram = a means of public transport in my home country, Croatia) trips to go to my parents’ place for lunch. So, in this kind of awkward situation I was feeling an enormous pressure of having to approach some of the women sitting and standing on the same tram that I was on too.

In short, my main problem was that I was stuck forcing myself into doing things that I dodn’t really enjoy doing. I was constantly forcing myself to approach random women just for the sake of making as many approaches a day as possible to kind of please my self esteem, instead of approaching all these women for the sake of having fun and truly enjoying myself while approaching them. As a result, women didn’t enjoy my approaches either.

Guess what. Since I hit my rock bottom and almost started totally losing myself, I realized that the only right thing for me to do to get rid of all this pressure is to completely empty all of my mind from it. Once again, my main problem was that I didn’t really enjoy the way I was approaching women. I was forcing myself into approaching women as if I was going to be executed on an electric chair as a form of death penalty, for example.

So, what was my decision? I decided to do two things. First off, I decided to completely stop approaching women the way I was approaching them because I didn’t really enjoy even the slightest bit of it. And, second off, I also decided to totally empty my mind from any intention to approach or pick up any woman. I simply let go of all my earlier intentions and pressures. I let go of all the pressure of forcing myself into unnaturally approaching women.

By the way, what hugely inspired me to make the above decision was Bruce Lee’s words of wisdom “Be Like Water My Friend…Empty Your Mind” and “The Arts Of Fighting Without Fighting.” These two things turned out to be my biggest light bulb moments on my personal growth journey of improving my pickup game. The reason why they were my biggest light bulb moments was because I actually realized that one of my key drawbacks was that I was constantly and desperately chasing women instead of making women chase me. So this is how I started to relate Bruce Lee’s “The Art Of Fighting Without Fighting” to my newly envisioned pickup concept of “the art of picking up women without picking them up.”

Guess what. I instantly started to feel tons of relief in both my soul and my body, and in about few days later I experienced my greatest breakthrough in my game where I got to enjoy the experience of me being able to effortlessly attract a hot young girl and make her chase me like crazy almost before I even opened my mouth and said anything to her. By the way, I said “effortlessly” but in fact, this success didn’t happen all by itself.

Before I tell you what was my next step that helped me make that girl chase me, I just want to quickly recap on the important realizations and observations that I came to so far:

1. I’ve learned that you should empty your mind from all your worries, tensions and pressures around approaching and meeting women immediately before you go out by saying to yourself: “I am going out now and am not going to feel under any pressure of having to approach or pick up any woman.” It’s like cheating your brain into feeling totally relaxed, peaceful and calm by saying to yourself “I’m now going out with no pressure and no intention to approach and pick up ANY woman, because I undestand that every time I do go out under such pressure, I always feel very tense and awkward out there when being around women. I don’t want to feel that way any longer.”

2. I’ve also learned that every time you kind of get stuck feeling like a social robot or a clown who mechanically approaches random women without actually enjoying the whole thing of approaching women, you should immediately stop doing it for a second and ask yourself: “Do I really enjoy what I’m now doing?”

By the way, I’ve learned this tip from a bestselling book on how to live in line with your top passions. It’s called “The Passion Test: The Effortless Path To Discovering Your Destiny.” I want to let you know that I found this book after spending one whole night and the whole following morning searching for the right way for creating and fully enjoying my dream life where I’d effortlessly live and cash in on my top passions in life. What motivated me the most to go into this dedicated search was the fact that my top passion is being able to effortlessly attract women.

The whole point of asking yourself the question “Do I really enjoy it?” is to really see for yourself if you’re really enjoying it or you’re constantly forcing yourself to do something that you don’t really enjoy. If you don’t enjoy it, then you should immediately stop doing it.

Back to my breakthrough experience in being able to effortlessly attract that hot girl and make her chase me. So, what were my next steps that I took in order to achieve this success apart from my first two steps: emptying my mind and asking myself if I really enjoy it?

3. I asked myself: “What would be the most important step that I need to take in order to make myself sexually appealing to women so that I am able to effortlessly attract them and make them chase me?”

While desperately and passionately searching for the best answer to this question, I realized that what was holding me back from being able to effortlessly sexually attract women was the fact that I’d never really been totally comfortable with freely expressing my real sexual feelings and desires towards women. I realized that I am pretty self confident man but I’ve never really been sexually confident in my interactions with women, because I’d often hide my real sexual interest from women that I was attracted to.

As the result of the above realization, I decided to go out totally empty-minded (as described above) and then do a small exercise of putting myself into an uncomfortable situation where I got myself to stare at some hot women’s sexy body parts for as long as until I got caught by any one of these women while staring at their legs or tits, for example. I did it in a public place that was an Argentine tango gig place open to public for only about 15-20 minutes. I did it because I fully believed that this one single step alone can hugely help recharge my natural sexual energy towards women so that I can easily attract hot women by projecting my sexual body language vibes without need to approach them and talk to them.

It’s important to mention that I did the above sexual confidence boost exercise while not approaching or picking up any woman at all.

4. After I left the Argentine gig place, I got extremely hungry. However, I was broke and didn’t have any money left in my pockets at that time. Then I remembered how beneficial for boosting up your self-confidence it is to get out of your daily comfort zones and overcome your small daily fears. So, as I was walking down the street at some point I found a pizza shop. I stood by the shop being tempted to enter it and ask the shop assistant to give me a piece of pizza for free. Despite the fact that I was at first kind of scared to do that, I did it and got a piece of pizza for free.

The outcome: I was feeling so amazingly happy, super excited and extremely proud of myself for spontaneously and naturally doing the above two steps (sexual confidence boost exercise and self confidence boost exercise) that I was flying with an amazing happiness, uplifting excitement and invogorating confidence as if I was on top of the world. While I was eating that piece of pizza and aimlessly walking down the street, I almost start singing and skipping with a huge happiness and pride.

I was feeling both self confident and sexually confident while having no pressure and no intention to approach and pick up any woman at all, because I decided to completely empty my mind from all that stuff, you remember?

And, here comes the moment of the truth – the biggest breakthrough in my pickup game.

At some point after I finished eating my pizza and got close to my home town’s centre, I spotted an extremely hot blonde young girl. She must have been 18 or 19 while I was 39 at that time. She was standing and chatting with her female friend on the other side of the road where she was waiting for her tram at the tram stop where I was also supposed to wait for my tram to go back home. As I was crossing the road while being totally calm, relaxed and self-amused all thanks to the reasons that I stated earlier, we made an intense eye contact immediately before I playfully and spontanesouly threw a short banter line at her. By the way, I can’t remember exactly what was my banter line but it was something down the lines: “So, how long have you been waiting for me here?”

Once I said the above line, she suddenly started to passionately flirt with me and hit on me like crazy. This was a super enjoyable experience of being able to effortlessly attract a hot woman and make her chase me almost like out of thin air that I have never ever experienced before in my entire dating life. Without wanting to brag, I must say that it almost looked like an ideal Casanova-type Hollywood movie scene where everything was going my way flawlessly. I was in a flow.

Man, I was barely opening my mouth for the following 20 minutes until we parted. The experience was super awesome! This is exactly the kind of experience that lifts you up to the sky height once you realize how fast you’re getting better as you’ve mentioned somewhere in your post.

Being carried away with my amazing success that I’ve always dreamed of, I soon decided to passionately study and research the common success traits of the best seduction and pickup artists. As a result, I soon learned that what I did there with that hot girl was mainly using the right flirting body language that helped me effortlessly attract her and make her chase me although I knew absolutely nothing about using the right body language at that time. I later found out that what I was essentially doing right were two key things: using my flirty smiling eyes and using my negative body language the right way.

Your smiling eyes are nothing to do with you actually smiling but just transferring your flirty, playful thoughts from your eyes directly into her eyes as if you’re trying to tell her: “You’re so cute and gorgeous but I’ve just met you, and I’m not thinking of having sex with you yet.”

And, your negative body language is such a body posture where you have the most of your body facing away from the girl that you’ve just met.

Finally, on top of all the above high value realizations, observations and research, I also learned that I was able to enter and fully enjoy that amazing flow state because I was actually taking the 6 key steps to getting into my own flow of effortlessly and naturally attracting women:

STEP 1: First, I was focused on following my top passion that was all about succeeding in effortlessly and masterfully attracting and picking up women. I learned that being in a flow is almost like playing your favorite video game where you absolutely love and enjoy playing every single bit of it because your true passion for playing it always drives you to get to the highest level of the game. This is exactly how I felt that day when I got to the level of being able to effortlessly attract a hot woman and make her chase me.

STEP 2: I was under no pressure of having to approach or pick up any woman. I realized that this helped me not only to fully focus on the moment of meeting a woman, but also to unleash my best in an interaction with her all thanks to a totally calm, relaxed and self-amused state of my mind. I learned that once you get into such state of mind, you’re able to naturally pull up the right things to say and the right moves to make at the right time during an interaction because no external and no internal distractions like your worries, anxieties or fears are holding you back from doing so. You’re fully immersed into doing something that you truly enjoy and love.

STEP 3: Address and fix your biggest challenges that are holding you back from living your top passion.

STEP 4: Find and learn the skill that you need to overcome your biggest challenges.

STEP 5: Set yourself a small doable task while using the right skill for the right challenge in a way that will allow you to get an immediate feedback as your reward for doing that task. This is very important because being rewarded will not only make you very excited and happy but also it’ll motivate you to improve your game until you totally master it.

STEP 6: Repeat the cycle of the previous steps by identifying your new challenges and using the right skills that’ll help you overcome these challenges.

Hope my experience is inspiring enough to help encourage any guy to unlock his full potential at effortlessly and naturally attracting women.

Ross, in advance thank you very much for getting my comment approved and published.

Peace and piece to you, too!

Bruno