Dear Seeker of Success,
Recently, I delved into how to handle it when a woman cancels a meeting or date and gives an “excuse” – especially when it happens through a text message.
Even skilled Seduction masters run up against this from time to time – it’s a challenge almost every guy faces.
Sometimes, this form of rejection can really get you down. (What’s that they say about how all your “ups and downs” with women should be in the bedroom?)
A student wrote to me in response to that post; apparently a chick he was really into had just flaked via text message and he wasn’t taking it well:
Ross, your post about chicks who cancel through text message hit me right at home. I have been seeing this one chick for about four weeks now, and I thought things were going well. She was supposed to come over tonight. Then, I got a text message where she cancelled and made no mention of rescheduling or even that she was sorry she had to cancel.
How should I respond to it? My energy just collapsed when she said this. In previous situations this would be enough for me to say “f@@k you, you’re out” and move on. For some reason, I perceived this rejection was coming way before it happened. What should I do?
RJ here.
Sounds like you want to move forward, but you also need to be totally certain before you take a step.
However, these two things are two conflicting desires bumping up against one another. The resulting “friction” is what causes the suffering and you “perceiving rejection”.
The All-Important First Step That Breaks You Free
Of The Shackles Of Uncertainty And The Feeling
Of “Impending Doom”
You need to let go of the need to be certain. Be aware of your uncertainty, but separate the raw physical sensations of uncertainty from the internal dialog or imagery you put yourself through when you’re worried she might cancel a meeting or dump you altogether.
Once you accomplish this, there is no more fuel to power the engine of your ongoing “story” that has kept you chained to the restraints of doubt. Now, you have the energy to create a NEW story about how you respond, what you can do, etc., that will get you laid far more often.
With this change, the “vibe” you put out to women will be grounded, quiet, flexible and attractive BEFORE YOU EVEN OPEN YOUR MOUTH.
It will no longer have to push out through your noise/friction. Your messages can be delivered with far less “push/voltage/intensity,” so they don’t creep women out / blow them out of the water / break the rapport necessary to get her into your bed.
That’s not a bad result for one simple process, is it?
That sure beats a poke in the eye!
Peace,
RJ
P.S. The keys to your liberation from the shackles of uncertainty and doubt, that open the doors to the hottest babes who can’t wait to ride the carnal carousel with you, are contained within the Rapid and Total Success With Women System.
