Dear Seeker of Success,
Seems that our post on the failure vibe that stifles a man’s girl-getting game from the inside really hit a nerve.
To respond to several of you who wrote with substantially the same question – what to do when it seems like every woman you see is with a man or a group of men – I’m going to share an email from a longtime fan that captures the essence of it.
The situation he brings up is common – all too common – for guys who want to meet really hot women.
You see, hot women LOVE company. They often love MALE company, because having a guy around:
- Keeps away the weaker, wimpier guys who assume that the escorting guy is the boyfriend.
- It makes them feel wanted and needed.
- Sometimes the guy IS the boyfriend but it doesn’t matter because, if you can approach it right, you often can STILL pull the girl.
Ok, here is the email/question:
“I had a question and I would like to hear your insight on following situation: You see a stunning girl and you would like to go and talk to her but she is surrounded with two or maybe more guys. Not in the bar or something like that..
My first thought is that one of them is her boyfriend and I should stay away. Especially if I see some touching going on. They could be as well close friends, but the question is, what would you say to a girl in this situation? I mean you really don’t know whether the boyfriend is next to her but in case he does what then?”
Ok, As I said above, NEVER make assumptions about whether or not a girl is “taken” or if the guy with her is her “boyfriend” (or “bore-friend” for that matter)..
For all you know, the dude is her “orbiter”. Someone who circles around her massive ego, to keep her feeling good about herself.
In any event, the key here is to approach and TALK TO THE GUY OR GUYS.
Do NOT approach the woman directly.
Simply go up to one of the guys.
Open your mouth and say, “You guys are a really cute couple. How did you meet?”
Trust me, if they are NOT a couple, she’ll quickly let you know.
From there, you are in.
Just remember: don’t ever make assumptions about whether a girl is taken or not. When you ass-ume, you stand a greater chance of feeling like an ass because you didn’t step up, then you will of looking like an ass if you did.
Peace,
RJ
P.S. Imagine how great your life will be when you know, with 100% certainty that whenever you see a beautiful woman, anytime, any place, that you know exactly what to do to approach her, get her attracted to you, and seduce her!
… How did you meet? … A great line Ross. Asking a question, of two or more persons, is almost always a pleaser. In this case you will find out if he is the B-friend. If he is, don’t try to make friends with him. It makes it much more difficult for her to open up to you, when, she thinks that, what she says to you, might get back to the B-friend. Also because B-friends are usually more confident, getting her alone, with you, is usually more easily done. And because B-friends are more dismissive of her, she will open up and complain about him when you do get her alone. If the guy is just a date, get just close enough to him so that you don’t get punched in the face. Then do your thing with her, right in front of him. If he feels threatened, he will show it, she will notice, he will appear less attractive, and this makes your job just that much easier.
So … I chat with this girl and her date at a party. Later she is cooking meat on the grill. I go up to her and engage. Her date rushes over. As he comes up to her, I stand in his way, look him straight in the eye, and say “hey buddy, you better watch yourself …You better be careful.” Then, keeping my eyes fixed on him, I reach back toward her; put my hand right in, and up against, her face and say to him “Be careful what she gives you to eat. I don’t think this girl has cooked more than two or three REAL meals in her life”. Of course, by the time I get to “… in her life”, I am laughing out loud as I speak. He is relieved and she can see that I am unafraid of either of them. This meeting had a happy ending. Turns out that her and her date were just right for each other and on the edge of getting together. My little act showed the guy how to be more attractive. He started to make fun of her too. I backed off, they got together and both are now good friends of mine. In fact, I am currently having it off with his last girlfriend. I am thinking maybe a threesome. Foursome?
This suggestion must have been around a while, because I have guys come up and ask me that at least twice a week here in Vegas. I always answer, “We’re Fuck Buddies!” And amazingly, the guys walk away when I say this.
Thanks Ross
Before some months I was in a situation where a girl was surrounded by friends, both male and female. I approached her and asked her an honest question about her (if someone ever has told her that she looked like Jennifer Aniston). The guy next to her acted a little bit rude when I introduced myself to him however I used the situation to my benefit and asked her “Is your boyfriend always this impolite?”. It soon went out that he wasn’t her bf and so I had a very nice night with a very nice, hot Jennifer Aniston looking girl I picked up.
But yes – usually it is better to speak to the other friends first.