Dear Speed Seduction® Student,
As I’ve said before, on more than one occasion in fact, one of the lessons I teach is that you use the information, vibe, and feedback a woman gives you to craft your patterning and banter to connect YOU with her erotic desires, wants and needs.
Part of what gets you this information is your ability to be observant and be curious.
Now, note I said BE curious. Not SEEM curious. This student understands the distinction but is still struggling:
> I understand how to SEEM curious, I want to BE curious. I find that 9 out of 10 times when speaking to people (not just women) I couldn’t care less about what they are saying even though I do care about them as a person. My mind starts to go into overdrive thinking about everything else I have going on in life. I find this isn’t helpful at work, with family, friends or SS. I think people can definately see this when talking with them.
Ok: here’s some food for thought…
For me, curiosity is about wanting to know how things REALLY work, beneath the surface appearance. It’s about looking for the large rules, controlling principles, hidden dynamics in ALL of life.
You can’t easily get curious only about women. Get curious about EVERYTHING.
Get curious about the inner processes that drive people that they themselves aren’t even aware of.
I think you’ll find you’ll see a whole ‘nother picture and have a much different (stronger) level of clarity that will boost your success with women, not to mention other areas where your current reality falls short of the potential you know you have.
Peace,
RJ
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That’s interesting Ross. I never really thought of it that way but you’re right it would help me with all areas of my life including seduction . I also think that being curious about everybody and everything, it will help train my mind such that I am already in that “state” of being open, curious and excited for new learnings when I am sarging. Thanks!
The more i WATCH YOURSELF, the more i DISCOVER NEW THINGS… 😉
Well I’ve been finding just the opposite to be true. I’m always curious about everything, not just women. Women however don’t seem interested when I’m friendly and interested in them. A really powerful “Fuck You” vibe today seemed draw one hottie’s attention (in a totally good way, I mean basically a fellow customer following me around the store, not like a cashier pacifying or anything). That’s better than I’ve been doing for the last week or so. OK so I know you’ve basically covered this, and a temporary case of Oneitis knocked me off track for a couple days (she was kind enough to cure me with a last minute cancellation; I learned what I needed from it), but I’m still struggling to get it right. I could have approached this girl today, but I was not in the mood to be friendly. Wait, wait, I think the light is coming on, “friendliness” is not quite what we’re aiming for here is it? (Although that’s what I would enjoy) We want to be bold and commanding and keep our sense of humor at bay. As I read this I can see why I might want to do that. Well I still haven’t gotten laid, but I enjoyed an afternoon of Fuck It there are more interesting things to do. A big part of the Oneitis was not thinking that she’s so hot (certainly hot enough), but just that hey if I had a typical GF I could free up the time I’ve been working on sarging for more productive pursuits. There may be a failure of memory involved in that reasoning.
It’s a good lesson Ross! It took me almost four times of failures in relationship with women to notice that figuring out the drive for each girl to get her seducting. Being curious is all about life success. You’d not get to know of any person deeply without becoming curious of that person. You’d not learn any other culture or languages if you aren’t even curious about them. Well, now here I’m because I found I want to know deeper about women, as for it, I’m still not that successful. Someday I’ll reminisce today and laugh off. I’m a curious guy, girls like me, they have crush on me, but here it comes personally harder that I want them sexually aroused. I’m yet/already early 20s, and I’ll figure it out. I’ll even think of becoming a PUA, which have been not my nature. Now? I do need a girl. Haha.
I have the same issue this student has. My mind has always had a tendency to wander (not just with women but everyone) which makes it difficult to be attentive & really listen. A busy mind is a noisy mind. Something to add to my daily affirmations that I started last week (& expanded on for all areas of life) thanks to the freebies Ross has given us.
I noticed that you can solve the problem of who wrote you the letter “simply” by doing the meditation that allow you to clear your mind.
When you have silence in your mind i’ve realized that (besides wierd things like every time i make a choice by insinct, that is the right one) you can really open yourself to the unkown, learning and even help people.
I reached this level after at least 3 month of every-day 20 minutes of meditation.
Ross, Thanks again. When i’ll have money and possibility i will run in a your seminar!
(sorry for my poor english, i’m Italian)
Here is today’s response to my comment yesterday:
Good non-verbal feedback all day. Perfect timing at lunch, cutie walking into Panera in front of me. Looked at her like, “cute, but probably not,” at which point she did some ridiculous maneuvers to not stand in line next to me. Thought about practicing with the next gal, but didn’t feel quite right. Right, don’t practice sarging with her, practice being neutrally friendly with everyone. That takes care of the whole issue.
Zarathud,
It’s interesting that you projected “vibes” to the girl in your first post. Yep, they do work, and they work best if you project them on both a telepathic (say the words in your mind) and an emotional level, and, obviously, be in the deepest state you can while projecting. Also, make sure all your attention is concentrated on the one you want to project it to, otherwise many people will pick up that same vibe.
Any female that responds positively to an intense “fuck you” vibe in a harsh form is likely to be an anxious girl with self-esteem problems. Anxious type females respond best to mixed signals of charm, and then indifference or outright negativity. This type of female only represents maybe 25% of their population, so don’t expect this tactic to work often (even many of that 25% responds much better to indifference rather than a total “fuck you” vibe). If you do win over a girl like this and you want to keep her long-term expect a lot, and I mean a lot, of drama in your life. My point– women vary in what they respond to as each is different.
Complementing girls on the vibe level works better than verbal compliments as you are usually reaching their subconscious where compliments are accepted more readily then on the verbal level. Still it’s far better to compliment non-sexual (or what’s thought to be, as there is really no such thing) areas of the body or her radiant style or what have you.
What RJ was saying here is if you observe people closely long enough you will be able to “read” the type of vibe or any other sarging you want to use to accomplish what you desire.
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