Dear Speed Seduction Student,
If you are an “older” guy then trying to “date” younger women is the dumbest, dumb-ass, idiotic thing you could even attempt to do.
Listen: I just got this email from a guy who likes younger gals. Read on:
“Like you I am a middle aged man who very much appreciates younger women, may I dare say even some of the coeds at my old alma mater (USC), simply because they are more visually appealing to me as well as having less emotional baggage. But I am worried they will think I am a bit of a pervert for following through on pickups due to the age difference. Too bad, I think they miss out on the pleasures of being made love to by a mature man. (Amazingly, I hear about a lot of twenty year old guys who fantasize about having sex with middle aged women!) Do you have any techniques to overcome their initial resistance to dating a man that is old enough to be their father? Mike”
Now, the problem with this guy is he is thinking in terms of “dating” instead of getting sexual without dating. The problem with “dating” is that young women are going to put him through all of their checklists and social approval requirements-what will her friends think, etc etc.
Never ask a young woman out on a “date”. Instead intrigue her with how you capture and lead her imagination and emotions, how you understand her inner world of desire, fantasy, her need to surrender to powerful experiences, escape etc. (Learn how here.)
Hang out, meet for coffee-no problem. Ideal. But get the image of picking her up, driving to a restaurant etc out of your mind.
I currently have a 19 year old and a 23 year old in my rotation. I’ve not spent $5 aggregate total. Neither should you.
Peace and piece,
RJ
P.S. Rapid and Total Success With Women is your key to capture and lead the fantasies, imagination and emotions of smoking hot women of any age.
When you are with younger women (18-21)and you are older, how do you deal with her friends? What about her parents as well? Many people seam to get all out of whack over this
What are some canned patterns and/or themes that work well with this these youngins’, connections seems hard for them to relate to .
Also, when you are in a yoga place or coffee shop and there is a table filled with young (18-21) girls, and you are older, how do you approach and yet deal with her friends who may apply their social pressure?
Lately I have been dating younger and younger women. I’m 39 and currently dating a 21 year old. The one before her was 23 and the one before that was 25. I’m doing my PhD so I’m constantly surrounded by younger women.
Ross is dead on by not letting them add a bunch of disqualifiers to you. It never enters my mind for a second that they might not be interested, and if they ask me how old I am I usually say “I’m 39, which means you are WAY to young for me so don’t get any ideas…” Said with enough confidence and this totally disarms them.
Add Ross’ technique of capturing her imagination, and connecting at an emotional level and it’s pure gold. Younger women turn to older men for experience, wisdom, and complexity that is not present in their contemporary dating pool.
Dr.Chris
Dr.Chris ..is there a way I could email you?
G,
You aren’t going to go out with her and her friend. You are going to have wild sexual adventures with her, and if you do “go out” it is going to be with her, alone, where her friend don’t go.
RJ