Dear Seeker of Success,
I’ve done this so many times.
A woman will be sitting a table away from me at a restaurant, coffee shop, wherever.
The conversation is going, but we’re still talking across two tables, in a few cases halfway across the room.
She’s interested, obviously so interested. Her body is leaning forward. She’s totally fixated on me.
But we’re still two tables away from each other. What to do?
I Say, “Let Me Come Sit Over There…
Is That Okay?”
No-brainer for some, but guys ask me about this all the time when they call me on my cell phone to ask for advice on chicks.
Not once has a woman EVER said no.
She always, always, always nods her head and says “Yes” or “Sure”. Often she even waves her hand in the “c’mon over” gesture.
Listen: You just have to look for how comfortable she is. There’s nothing wrong with moving closer once you see she’s really into the conversation. And getting the words right is important, too.
Just say, “Let me come sit over there so it’s easier to talk,” “Why don’t I come sit over there?” or “Why don’t you come sit over here?”
You Don’t Need An Excuse To
Make That Move, Either
It’s not necessary to be a palm reader. You don’t have to have pics of your cat on your i(don’t-answer-the)Phone to show her. You don’t even have to say you’re hard of hearing, the music is too loud, or whatever.
Eliminate this whole idea that you have to make an excuse for what you do. Confident guys don’t do that.
There’s nothing wrong with palm reading as a way of exciting girls, or cat pictures as a way of making her feel all warm and fuzzy (ha ha ha).
But you don’t need excuses for getting closer.
Me? I just invite her over, or invite myself over. To the point.
Now, go and do likewise.
Peace,
RJ
P.S. If you don’t have your own cat, I give you special purrmission to borrow Sargy’s official portrait. The visage and spirit of the Grey Cat will always, always, ALWAYS lead to moist pink abundance.
P.P.S. Whether you have a cat or not, this will get you to the Mattress Macarena Party right damn quick as well.
Thanks, that was a realy good reminder!
Just yesterday I saw a group of 3 girls across the table at a food court about 8 or 9 metres away. I had the line to approach them, but it just didn’t strike me that I could initiate a conversation even from my own table. I just thought I have to walk upto their table to say something and then it felt weird that I might have to stand there (if they didnt invite me to sit down). In retrospect I realize if I’d have just said something from my table and built some connection and comfort I could have just said, “Why don’t y’all join me?” Haha! Damn! Missed opportunity but it’s not gonna happen again.
@Harsh it happens to the best of us.
Do you keep a Sarge journal?
Just came back yesterday after 6 months at sea. But before that I used to. Now that I’m back on land again, I think I will get upto speed and do it the proper way. In fact I got lot’s to tell you. Hope to talk soon.
@Harsh
Can you join us for the “Give V-Day The Finger” call tomorrow?
http://getrj.at/finger15/
Would love to have you there.
Absoulutely!
Thanks for being there – nice speaking with you!
How do persuade a woman that once loved you to stop hating you
You move on and find another woman.