Dear Seeker of Success,
In yesterday’s blog post about the dominant vibe, I explained how in over-reaching in trying to be commanding, many otherwise smart guys come across as desperate supplicators in denial and ironically reveal themselves to be Average Frustrated Chumps (AFC).
Today, I want to delve into a very common scenario that makes many guys feel the need to put on “dominant” airs.
Let’s say you’re at a regular hangout, and there’s a chick you see and you want like nothing else to Sarge on her. Then this other guy (who you often see there) comes along, usually just as you’re preparing to approach her. He’s always very aggressive with women. He completely lacks any real methodical girl-getting game; all he brings to the game is just a lot of touching and bodily contact.
But there’s one catch.
Many chicks think he’s “better looking” than you, so he gets lots of ass on his looks alone. It’s happened more than once that you were actually Sarging on a woman when he comes over, pats you on the shoulder in mock-friendship that makes YOU look like the jerk if you get pissy, and then steals the show. And the girl.
It’s gotten to the point where if he shows up, your girl-getting game goes gummy (as in the bears). Your confidence sags. You’re defeated before the first shot is fired since you stand no chance vs. his “superior” looks. That, and because he’s so aggressive and Johnny on the spot, you can’t even find the opening to approach her and get the ball rolling, much less keep him away.
But all is not lost.
Here’s How To Beat This Jerk At His Own Game
And Have Him Wishing He Was You
There’s really only one way to master this situation, and that’s to do it vibrationally and enegertically FIRST, and THEN through language.
By this, I mean that this clotheshorse clearly understands the use of the “dominant” vibe. But he’s not using the other three:
- Showing understanding of her world
- Being vulnerable
- Being funny and fun
More importantly, he doesn’t understand that by randomly fractionating back and forth between these vibes, the power of them multiplies rather than adds.
When you’re exponentially expanding your vibes and erotically executing your master plan, soon the ladies will be wondering who that pushy, obnoxious, needy, pathetic jerk is who keeps following you around trying in vain to cock-block you.
And that sure beats a poke in the eye.
Peace,
RJ
P.S. Sick and tired of getting rejected, ignored, humiliated, overlooked, shut down or standing there frozen and speechless by beautiful women, especially when these “dominant” men interrupt your patterns?
Click here for the shield that keeps your girl-getting game going gangbusters.
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The guys don’t have to be good looking, and generally they aren’t, there usually narcissitic douchebags
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Nice; You really give us the whole gamut. This is the problem with most (if not all) of the other gurus; they only hammer on one of the vibes. Double your masturbating has you picking on them. Real shitty dimwits turns you into a kindergardener and the X guy says to get pissed so you can pull.
From the above:
“by randomly fractionating back and forth between these vibes, the power of them multiplies rather than adds. When you’re exponentially expanding your vibes and erotically executing your master plan”
Ok, let me get this straight: I think you mean that we should continually shift between inducing all the different individual, specific states of mind that pertain to attraction– so that they become inseparable as a single feeling of PURE attraction.
For example, the guy might exude physical attraction– but that’s all; however if we continually shift between inducing other patterns that pertain to OTHER states of mind she finds attractive, and link them to ourself.
And while we’re at it, what about BUSTING patterns that the cockblocker induces through his looks– in this case, run her patterns that she has AGAINST generic physical attractiveness, i.e. if she’s ever been hurt by a good-looking guy etc– or how attraction based on looks is nothing more than a crush, while real emotionally intimate connection is the real thing and only gets stronger?
And asking if she’s ever dumped someone who looks like that– or been cheated on etc? Or even better, put her “demon-spawn ex’s” face on the cockblocker’s, or otherwise get her to associate them to the point that she transfers her feelings of hate to him?
Most important of all, I want to mention the “Prime Directive” of GETTING LAID– i.e. the end-goal to which everything else is sacrificial and secondary (except of course your personal safety and freedom); i.e. be willing to do WHATEVER IT TAKES as long as it doesn’t get you physically hurt or arrested. Once you put that in perspective, the path becomes clear– and everything becomes a means to that end.
P.S. When I say “Getting laid” I mean GETTING LAID– NOT “getting the girl;” let’s face it, you can have sex with ANY chick(s), so if you think your chances are better with pursuing another one then that’s what you do. This protects puts your own interest center-stage, and keeps you from falling into the trap of “one-itis” where one chick gets control of your self-esteem AND your gonads; i.e. you can fish or cut bait, since there’s plenty in the sea– so it’s no biggie if one gets away, only a dumb fisherman chases after it.
PPS. one last thing:
when you say the above vibes:
■Showing understanding of her world
■Being vulnerable
■Being funny and fun
Regarding the first one: does this go to eliciting values? I.e. it’s not a matter of BEING these things, but inducing the FEELING that we are these things, though the 1-2-3 process?
For example, for the first one we’d elicit values, and run that vibe then linking that feeling to ourselves; likewise for the other ones we’d do the same?
I’d also like to mention “pacing” here, i.e. just go slow enough to get the raction, but not so slow that she consciously has a chance to realize what you’re doing.
This shifting between states, sounds like a good way of doing this, since I’d often get caught when I focused on one SPE, with her asking me if I’m a hypnotist etc; meanwhile if you keep on shifting, then it’ll keep her continually off-balance from catching on, while also being busy enjoying herself by falling for you more and more without realizing it.
@Brian
Showing understanding of her world could be as simple as recognizing that she is feeling tired. Or energized. Or sad. NO need to elicit values for this, although you can.
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