“Any sufficiently developed technology would be
indistinguishable from magic”…Arthur C. Clarke
Dear Speed Seduction® Student,
In the last issue of this series, I talked about the fatal mistake of not knowing how to transition from talking to getting physical with a woman. I gave you a link to an mp3 recording of a coaching session with a student, whom I helped to powerfully overcome this problem.
Now, at the conclusion of this series, I’d like to talk about perhaps the worst, most fatal mistake of all. When you get past this one, you’ll enjoy a power and success with women you can’t possibly imagine. So here is…
Fatal Mistake #10: Ignorance Of The Four Key Vibes To Attract Women
Ok. Here is the big secret. Let me lay it out for you in a few pieces to make it easier for you to get it and apply it:
1. Women respond to your vibe very strongly, as strongly as they do to your behavior and your words. Get your vibe in line and what you say and do will be magnified in power by a factor of 3-4 times.
Just to use a metaphor; your vibe is like a conductive medium and your words and behavior are like electricity. Send 10,000 volts down a sheet of cardboard and 10,000 volts down a sheet of gold foil and you will get two very different results. Same current, dramatically different end result.
The aligned power of your vibe, your words and your behavior doesn’t add. It multiplies. That’s the good news.
The bad news is, that if your vibe is off or incomplete(which is true for 99.9% of men, even guys who are naturally good with women), then the power of your words and behavior is divided by your incomplete or bad vibe.
I’m sure you’ve seen this time and again with guys who try to deliver lines or act in certain ways that don’t match their inner feelings or attitudes. They wind up looking like idiots and they repulse women.
2. There are actually four vibes, each one of which attractive to women, but no one vibe, by itself, is sufficient. While you may have seen some of these vibes discussed individually as ‘”the secret to attracting women”, in reality, none of them by themselves works well enough to have true choice and power and satisfaction with top quality women. You have to master and use them all. Using one or two of them guarantees a mediocre life of settling for the women you know you can get, instead of celebrating the ones you truly desire. Using all four you can write your own ticket.
3. The true secret is to use these vibes in combination, unpredictably, so a woman never can tell which one you will present next. Her need to “figure you out” when she can’t will multiply the effect of the vibes and drive you even deeper and more powerfully into her heart and mind.
Using all the vibes in combination creates the emotional variety that women actually deeply respond to. Being unpredictable in their use and presentation adds in the element of mystery that will drive her truly up a romantic wall trying to figure out what makes you so damned uniquely attractive.
Emotional variety x unpredictability/mystery x perception you are uniquely attractive=HER BEING MADLY ATTRACTED TO YOU!
At this point, it doesn’t matter if you are broker than bat-shit or you look like the north end of a flock of ducks flying south. You’ve got her. And her hot friends. Her twin sister. I think you get the picture.
More On Emotional Variety
Yes, women want to feel deeply led by a strong guy. But sometimes they also want to laugh with someone who is playful and fun.
Yes they sometimes want to laugh with someone fun. But sometimes they want to feel deeply understood-if they feel you understand where they are at, they will then feel you are someone who can lead them where you’d like them to go.
Sure they sometimes want to feel deeply understood, but at other times they want to feel they understand you-they want to know what you feel, what your world is like.
Unpredictability And Positive Challenge
Using the vibes unpredictably triggers her need to figure you out and, just as importantly, to figure out, master and understand her feelings.
Women are expected by society and other women, to be masters of their feelings; to understand and appreciate all the variations and permutations of the flow of them. It is considered as much a badge of womanhood as wearing a bra, pumping estrogen and squatting to pee.
But like guys who are tri-athletes who keep reaching for the next more difficult race, women are drawn to those emotional situations that they can’t figure out.
It’s a challenge to their powers, a challenge to the very essence of how they see themselves as women.
Unfortunately, almost all of the time, men challenge women in a negative way: saying one thing, then doing another. Being a kind guy one moment and a cruel idiot the next.
As Speed Seducers, we learn to challenge her need to figure her feelings, but do it in a positive way.
She’s not trying to figure out why sometimes she loves you and sometimes she hates you.
No, instead, she can’t figure out or predict all the various ways in which you make her feel fantastic.
She can’t quite figure out which of the attractive vibes you will come forth with next, which is more of the “real you”, which is more appealing to her, which she likes more in which event, circumstance and situation.
So you are touching her deepest emotional needs: variety and the need for self-mastery with her emotions, and you are doing it without for a moment ever dipping into negative emotions, or cruel, jerk-off behavior.
Shit, I Forgot To Describe The Four Vibes; Here They Are:
- Being dominant, commanding, a strong leader
- Being fun, playful, exciting
- Demonstrating deep understanding and expertise of her world
- Being vulnerable, open, and SPEAKING YOUR TRUTH!!!!
Conclusion
We’ve come a long way in this 10 part series. I hope you can see how far off their game most men are, and yet, by following this road map of knowledge, how close you actually are to wild, ridiculous and unbelievable success, power and choice with women.
Look: dealing with women from the wrong set of understandings and tools can be unbelievably frustrating, confusing, and borderline crazy making. And most of what we as men have been taught will work by popular media, friends and family is at best, not even half-true, and at worst, down-right stupid, crazy, defeating, totally false and wrong.
I know because I have been there and it can be a real hell. And I also know what it is like to be in an entirely different place of being in the driver’s seat and calling the shots.
You can find that great place too-whether you want one great woman, a series of different fantastic women, or something in between. I know because I’ve helped thousands and thousands of guys get there.
It would be my honor and pleasure to guide you there as well.
“Love under Will shall be the whole of the Law”…Thelema Society
