Dear Speed Seduction® Student,
In our last installment of this series, I talked about the fatal mistake of carrying over your old limiting emotions, beliefs, ideas and ways of acting into your new efforts and new ways with women.
In this installment, I want to talk about yet another fatal mistake with women. So here we go with…
Fatal Mistake With Women Part 5:
Setting Your Sights WAY Too Low
This is a subtle mistake, but a deadly one.
In any area of life, where you haven’t gotten or enjoyed nearly what you want there are two basic ways of dealing with it that pretty much guarantee you’ll stay stuck for life.
You can:
- Lower your expectations so they match your current reality. Examples would be thoughts like, “Well, what’s the use. All women are bitches”. Or “There is no point in trying. Women only want tall guys(or skinny guys or rich guys) etc”. Or “Well, I don’t really want hot girls anyway. Ok looking girls are fine” Or “I better get what I can take; I’m too old now anyway”
- Ignore your current reality and pretend things are really as great as you want them to be. This takes the form of trying to talk yourself into staying with a woman whom you know deep down doesn’t satisfy or fulfill you, pretending that you are happy being alone, giving yourself constant “pep talks” about how things are going to be ok, asking advice from friends who tell you, “You’ll find someone” etc etc etc.
For most guys, this translates into setting their sights way, way too low. They settle for the first woman accidentally attracted to them, and then they try like hell to hang on. Or they see a woman who is truly desirable, truly attractive, but talk themselves out of taking a true step.
Over the years I have heard these stories from hundreds, if not thousands of guys. Usually it is from guys who are stuck on one woman; either a woman they are already with, or one whom they have been fantasizing about and hoping to get with for months or years!
I always ask them the same question: “If you knew with 100% certainty you could go out today and meet 5 women, all of whom are much hotter, smarter, open, cool, loving and fun, would you waste even a moment with this girl?”
That one usually shakes them up, and good.
So instead of denying your desires or trying to con yourself into thinking your current situation is actually really great, isn’t it time you grabbed for the tools and the teacher who can lead you into the third option: having a reality that matches your wildest dreams and visions?
I’ve taught thousands of guys to do this. I can do the same with you.
Aim up. Aim high. It’s time to take back and own your wildest dreams of success and happiness with women. It is possible, you can do it, as thousands before you have.
All you need do is open your mind.
