When Touching Her Boobs Rubs Her The Wrong Way

Dear Seeker of Success,

I recently received an e-mail from a student in our Elite Mastermind Program.

The challenge he shared speaks to one of the fears that many smart guys have – what if I touch her and she really doesn’t like it?

Here’s the situation:

He and his female friend were parked in his car, and during the course of their encounter he touched her boobs.  She freaked out and demanded he take her home, which he did.

Now, he  tried calling her a few days later, only for her to angrily tell him to f&$# off and not call him again.  What he’s trying to figure out is, why is she so mad?  They’ve known each other for a long time, and it’s not like he touched her boobs often.  Why did she explode on him?  Since then, nothing.  Text messages he sends her get no response.  No more phone calls.  No more meetings. 

Why Did Him Touching Her Boobs
Rub Her The Wrong Way?

A couple points to ponder.

First, foremost, important-most and uppermost: it’s one thing to touch a woman in a way that excites her and builds her connection to you, and it’s another thing to grope her.  Before you tested her melons, what work have you done with touching in general?  There are many touches that are subtle but unmistakable in how you build a rapport, and a power that makes her WANT to do your bidding.  The back-of-the-neck thing is just one example.

Second, when you made a grab for her boobs, did you work your way up to it, so that this was a natural next step?  Or did you just reach out and give them a good squeeze?  Was it within the context of something else, such as holding her close from behind while pondering the view from wherever you were parked and letting your hands explore invited?

Third, this student also suspects she likes when he takes her out to dinner, to shows, and the like.   If this is the pattern you’ve set, it creates, in and of itself, a No Boobies Zone.

Long-time aficionados of Ross Jeffries Uncensored will remember the super-squirter who dried up and flaked.  After that first night of gushing delight, my student’s next move with her, 4 days later, was to take her to dinner and a show.

Money-wise, he spent $7.50 on the coffee meeting that led to her coming home with him, then ponied up almost $100 on a “date” where he had to compete for her attention with her iPhone and she outright asked to end the night early.  There was no “next night.”

Fourth, what was YOUR reaction? Were you a deer in the headlights when she looked at you after your hands made contact?  Did you have a “recovery pattern” on tap to re-frame the experience, get her calmed down, and restore the earlier vibe so you could try again later?  Could be, she freaked out because YOU freaked out.

Let me conclude by adding: a woman’s immediate reaction should never be interpreted as her “final answer.”  But if you went into panic mode, you might have helped her get there herself.

Peace,

RJ

P.S. Sarging, creating irresistible arousal, getting laid, developing a real relationship, is a journey, not a one-shot deal.  Like any journey, you’ll hit potholes, have to take detours and rest stops, and everything else.   T

o make it to your destination, you need to know how to adjust the travel plan as these things happen. And this will show you how.