Transforming A Student: RJ’s Personal Log

Dear Speed Seduction(R) Student,

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Let me briefly outline how I see this going and what I believe will be most helpful.

1.  First, we need to work on, and you need to commit strongly to working on, changing the emotions and the responses you have when things don’t go 100% your way. I’m going to teach you POWERFUL skill sets and practices.

The emotions you bring forward into your interactions with women will obviously have a strong effect on how she responds to you.  This clearly makes sense and is easy to observe.

If you go into any interaction with anyone, and you are fearful, anxious, desperate, angry with yourself and them, they are going to pick up on the subtle and not so subtle non-verbal cues and they are going to want to withdraw.

It looks like this:

limiting emotions/interpretation of events/old beliefs——————>ineffective actions/emotional baggage that turns women off——>crappy results in the world—————>more limiting emotions/interpretation of events/and beliefs—————–>etcetetc in an infinite loop that chases its own tail.   Google: ouroubous

I need for you to see clearly the process by which you have been, up until now, reinforcing your limitations and reinforcing your limiting emotions and responses, and then bringing those forward into your new interactions.

It’s got NOTHING to do with the essence of who you are.  It’s just crappy software. Put that crap in anyone’s head and it will work like a speed brake to destroy any or most progress they would otherwise have made.

So for the first month or so, we are going to train you in this before we do ANY field work.

You will learn:

A. To state what is going on without drama: ‘This feels very frustrating right now! Right now I feel like this is impossible”

B. Claim ownership and management(instead of being a victim or assuming that your feelings just happen to you)

“And I now claim my ownership and my management of this set of feelings”

C. State where you are going to go with it, “To the point where I remain calm, balanced, motivated, dedicated and committed to my skills, my learning, my peace of mind, that bring me my satisfaction and my pleasure, with my most amazing women who please, satisfy, and delight me in every way”

Summarizing:  we are not going to stuff your emotions.  But we are not going to feed them or mix them up with self-pity and drama about how  you just can’t do it and how the world is out to frustrate you etc.

THIS DISCIPLINE IS CRUCIAL FOR ***YOU***.  NOT ALL STUDENTS NEED IT SO MUCH BUT YOU MUST MUST MUST MASTER THIS BEFORE I CAN TEACH YOU ANYTHING ELSE.  The way in which you have, up until now, been handling this, is THE single biggest process that has kept you blocked.

To use a metaphor: it’s not that you are in prison. It’s that the prison is constantly disappearing and then being remade by YOU, moment by moment, by how you have been thinking and processing UP UNTIL NOW.

We will then teach you to work with the raw feeling, without any story or dialog at all. To be present with it and watch it shift and change.   This is called “skill at feel”and it is VERY, VERY powerful.

2. Second, we are going to work on teaching you to build and cultivate a place of inner peace, calm, and refuge that you can and will go to 20 minutes a day.  A reference point for what it feels like to be at ease with yourself. Later we will teach you how to bring this into your external world in your interactions with others.

3. Then and only then will we teach you how to rehearse and program in a powerful, positive presence.

This inner foundational preparation is REQUIRED for you to make the success you are claiming for yourself.

You will have to go get a journal and keep notes on what you are assigned to do and how you do it and the results.

This first part of the training will take anywhere from 3-6 weeks, possibly more. Trust me, this will make the actual field work MUCH easier.

I should have some space either before or after Thanksgiving. You can come down here and I’ll work with you on this stuff. If you’d like to get started sooner, we can do a Skype session which I will record for you.

Finally, I need to send you an agreement which you will sign, that formally gives your consent to use your communication/likeness etc for my purposes of promotion/etc.

RJ

PS: I recommend, indeed require, that you get the following.

1. Breakthrough Difficult Emotions by Shinzen Young. Get it as an mp3 download on Amazon.

2. Conscious Language 101 CD set by Robert Tennyson Stevens   You can only get it from their website:  http://www.masterysystems.com GET THE CD, NOT THE BOOK, WHICH IS HORRIBLE!

I care….so make this count! We ARE going to transform your fucking life!