Dear Speed Seduction® Student,
When a woman has just gotten out of a real-hate-shun-ship with her borefriend or is newly divorced from her husband (or has-been-ed), is she really on the rebound, or just looking for a shoulder to cry on and the right AFC to provide it?
Can you tell the difference? Can you make the situation work in a Sargy way for both of you?
A student of mine seemed to have an uncanny knack for missing his chance, again and again, with this one HB…
There’s this HB that I was interested in before I came to Speed Seduction®. At the time, she was married, and although she knew I was interested in her, I didn’t try to interfere because I had scruples about that. I didn’t know that the marriage was awful, and she ended up leaving him. All our mutual friends were telling me, don’t come on too strong now, let her have space, she’s grieving over this. So that’s what I did. And as a result she hooked up with some other guy. So basically I have a history of being a total AFC with this HB.
Anyway, Sunday afternoon, she calls me to tell me that the guy has dumped her for another woman. She goes on about how much grief she is in and how much she loved him, blah, blah, blah, and even says that she offered to tolerate the other woman if he would stay with her.
Whoa. And double whoa. OK, let’s dissect this.
Mutual friends mean well, but they always speak from their own filters, especially the filter about what they WANT to be true. Always trust your own instincts and remember: WOMEN…CRAVE…SEX.
Good seducers know this. WOMEN…CRAVE…SEX; whether they are grieving or not.
As a Speed Seducer® your job isn’t therapy. The tough part is when we care for/about someone, we want to offer solace, a kind ear, and big shoulder, and open heart.
That’s great for female friends whom we have NO interest in f@@king OR for women we are ALREADY F@@KING.
But offering this to a woman as the primary or even backup strategy for getting her hot for you (if she isn’t already) SELDOM WORKS.
Does it sometimes work? Yes…SOMETIMES. Sometimes, drawing to an inside straight works in poker. The numbers are against you.
I’d have you have a closer look on your own issues about being overtly sexual, sexually forward, etc. etc.
Being kind and sweet may feel safer or better or have less anxiety attached to it for you, so it becomes your one and only default response (absent an engraved invitation where she says F@@K ME).
Peace and piece,
RJ
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SpeedSeduction just makes logical sense to a guy. The 3.0 course shows me how to capture/lead a woman’s imagination and how to have fun doing it. When I see how Ross can use 3.0 fundementals like these to analysis situations, I always get a big confidence boost. Thanks for the help in this are of life, Ross.
Continuing … So mutual friends tell this guy that the woman is greiving. Well if these mutual frieds are helping her to imagine grief…a woman in grief is what they’ll see. But, if you lead a woman to imagine a fun time with you … then that is what you’ll see.
Hi Ross,
how to deal with a HB when she wants long term relationship and you need fun & sex. I have relaised managing these conflicting expectations creates too much drama.
I am subscribed to BuddytoBed mate course and have been scanning it to get your view on above.
Thanks a ton!
G’day Mate,
Well I got a good LMR for you Ross – If we have sex now will you have sex with other women?
Since my first girlfriend some many years ago I have been involved with bi-sexual and multiple girlfriends or women who are interested in experimenting with other women- to feel the experience- I have not set out for this to happen —it just finds me.
Some months ago I had a woman in bed getting ready to ride the hot rod when she said to me—- If we have sex now will you have sex with other women—-now this lady knew about my history of multiple girlfriends and she had indicated to me it was something that she would try if the right guy came along — she was a friend to f99kbuddy as I had know her for about 12 months.
I just said: “Yes”—she indicated to me that that was the most erotic thing a guy had said to her and she became very passionate—- but—– my instincts were telling me different.
After tell me how much she wanted me inside her, a number of times and as I got ready to f99k her brains out she said: I need a quick drink of water and when she came back she was too tired and just wanted to go to sleep.
Over the next week I only received one phone call from her—after that no contact.
After about two months I ran into one of her girlfriends who told me she had meet a guy who she is totally in love with….I was able to determine she met this guy about 10 day after flaking on me.
It now been about 7 months and no contact—so the next time a woman is getting ready to ride the hot rod.. says to me——- If we have sex now will you have sex with other women?——can you or your students suggest a better response than….. Yes…because I want to improve my process
See Ya
Grey
Surprised I didn’t see poke-her in parens next to poker 😉